Monday, 18 June 2018

Marry And Divorce Than Remain Single?

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Well this is what we hear as words of advice for some single ladies out there who are still finding it difficult to meet their choice of marriage mates.But this has never been said to any man that he should be married today and get divorced and get divorced tomorrow. The reason for this is not the point of our discussion today but the question: ''Should one, ( A lady) get married just to any man that comes in the name of marriage and divorce than remain single?

Because marriage is a life time journey,both man and woman take their time to choose carefully marriage mates they would love to spend rest of their lives with. However,this does not always end well with women because their reproductive period ticks faster than men's.

However,some women naturally would like to be single than have men call husbands that would put restrictions in their life,making them go slow and unhappy in life. But unfortunately for these ladies,their culture frowns and does not support the idea of women being single without marriage mates either as choice or by circumstances .

This is especially common in Africa where women are honored only when they are married!

In order words,African culture prefers,advises and forces women who rather prefer to remain single than marry men they won't be happy with to just get married and then divorce than remain single forever!

Does this make sense that one should get married to someone that troubles her heart and saddens it deeply just to fulfill the law of her culture?

If a woman eventually gets married just to bear Mrs. somebody in a life time and later gets divorced,would that not still take her back to singleness,a state that her culture frowns?

Of what gain does either the culture or the woman listening and obeying the culture rather than living her life achieved?

Marry and divorce than remain single? The choice is still yours to make my dear!! In as much as we could say no,we can't force you to accept it either!!!
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Saturday, 16 June 2018

Interesting Reasons Why Ladies Find it Difficult To Propose!


Apart from books,stories you've heard,have you ever seen a woman propose to man? Well it's not rare! However,there are some cultures that permit women to meet men their hearts beat for and throw the initiative.

Yes,they could be the ones to tell their boyfriends who have hesitated to express their love and intentions to their girlfriends ''I love you and would love us to build a home as husband and wife'' or ''I love you and would like to spend the rest of my life with you!''.

If the man accepts the proposal,he begins to think of marriage with his girlfriend and eventually get married to her! Why? Because the woman brings the initiative and proposes to him.

 Proposal as we all know in terms of relationship is an offer for marriage. From world history it's always done by the men to the women because right from time, men are by nature,the ones that ask the hands of women they love in marriage and not the other way round. 

Some hardcore feminists however in the world believe this should be changed and women too should be given the right and freedom to propose to men but here's the truth: No one is stopping women from proposing to men.They are free to do what men can do!

Please find out below,the reasons ladies find it difficult to propose:


Reasons Why Ladies Find it Difficult to Propose


In the continuation of this article, you will get to know more about the reasons women avoid taking  steps in proposing to their boyfriends especially in African countries and Arabian part of the world.Yes,there are also some religions that have restricted women from proposing to their boyfriends.

Take a look at some restrictions below:

1. Traditions: There are so many traditions that are affecting us today which started from the beginning until now.

Men naturally are the heads and authorities of women. They are always considered to be stronger and more capable to handle situations. Therefore they are expected by tradition to make the proposal to women. 


2. Cheap: When a lady proposes to a man, people see her as someone that's being so cheap that she couldn't even wait for the man to propose to her. To make matters worse the man being proposed to see her as someone without value, though not all of them but most of them.

3. Desperation: When you propose to a man as a lady, the society at large might see you as a desperate woman who wants to get married immediately and can't stand being single. Sometimes too they see you as someone that's old in age and wants to marry by all means.

4. Gold digger: Proposing to a man particularly a man that's rich can lead to some speculations by people and friends. They might sense you want to move into the world of wealth that's why you want to marry him by all means to the extent of proposing to him even if it is done out of love you have for him.

Like we have seen,the issue of women restricted from proposing to men they love is not in all traditions. Even some traditions that permit their women to propose to their men if they can, do not do so because they feel women have right over men,but merely on sheer belief.

It is not common or natural to have women propose to their men,and that is absolutely the reason why women find it difficult to propose to their lover boys!

The above mentioned points are hand full of reasons that make ladies not to propose to men. There are many other reasons too maybe you can add them in the comment box.


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When To Quit A Relationship - 4 Important Points For You!






Quitting a relationship is always difficult especially when the relationship has lasted for months or  years. This is especially difficult because you have really come to accept and love this person with your heart,mind and soul.

Loving someone means a lot in our lives and it makes us want to be with the person at all times. This is again the problem we face when we want to let go because our brain has been conditioned to always be with that person almost all the time. What happens when we are not enjoying that love we crave for from our partner and then on the process become confused on whether to continue or quit?





There's an adage that says "The greatest problem we can ever face is whether to continue or let go". Well, this is why this article is for you today because I was once in such a situation and to be honest with you it was really confusing and frustrating. Take a look at the points below to find out for yourself, if it's necessary to continue in a relationship or to quit and the perfect time to make such a decision!

1. Physically abused: If you are physically abused then it's time to walk away from such a relationship. For God's sake,how could you continue to be in relationship that posses threat to your life? If you die,who loses? You or your partner? My dear lover,use your senses!




 There's no management with your partner when you are physically abused, instead it's the best time to call it quit!  Dwelling in such a relationship could be life threatening.


2. Infidelity: Is your spouse or partner not faithful to you? then it's high time to consider where you're heading to in such a relationship. There are so many disadvantages attached to this problem if you don't walk away. If you are in a relationship with a partner that continues to cheat  with another opposite sex,it's either you avoid having sex with him or her or you quietly walk away if you really want to remain safe.  Should I tell you that continuing being in the relationship might lead you to being infected with sexually transmitted diseases which your partner may contract from the people he or she has sexual contact with? 

3. Addict: Depending on the type of addiction and it's level, but let's say that your partner is a drug addict and you know it is something you could not stand,what would you do if all he does is drink and break bottle at home ? Being in that relationship would not only poss danger to your health but risk to your life! Maybe one day,if doesn't see money to buy weeds or whatever he smokes,he might result to use you head for it before his eyes clears.




4. Lies: If your partner is deceitful and always tells you lies every time ,my dear,this is something serious.

Lies,dishonesty,breach and shatter trust! Where is the relationship without trust?

If you have not entered into marriage with this partner,kindly walk away from him or her before it is too late! Yes walk away,it is not a sin!!!  Read more: 20 Dos & Don'ts Of A Functional Relationship!
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Friday, 15 June 2018

20 Dos & Don'ts Of A Functional Relationship!






20 DOS & DON'T'S OF A FUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIP






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The following is a list of The 20 Dos and Don'ts of A Functional Relationship. It has been an effective tool and starting point for individuals and couples who are serious about creating more joy, honesty, and real intimacy in their lives. Most often, clients they say this list has given them a beginning template of what a functional relationship should look like.

Hierarchy of A Functional Relationship

-Intimacy



-Love



-Respect



-Trust



-Truth



WHAT IS A FUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIP?

All relationships need to start with a base of truth. Without truth at the base of our relationship pyramid, trust cannot occur. Without this development of trust, respect will never be born. Without the essential level of respect for one another, love will never grow and nourish the partners. Intimacy occurs when we are willing to share our whole selves with one another. Intimacy is the gift we get at the top of this hierarchy when we are willing to participate and engage in a balanced relationship. A functional relationship always continues to grow and expand into a beautiful, ongoing adventure of emotional intimacy.

If you are one of those who constantly feels like you are walking on eggshells, afraid of telling your truth, you may not be participating in a functional relationship. Read the 20 do's and don'ts and see how many apply to you.

20 DOS & DON'TS OF A FUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIP

1. Who you think you are is important. Like attracts like. Think about it. Do you like who you are?

2. What you want in a relationship is important, and when you are willing to ask for it, you will be able to create it. But only ask for what you want when you are clear about what it is. Until then, don't go around demanding things you just think you should have.

3. We get exactly what we focus on. The problem or the solution. We make a choice between them with every decision we make.

4. Tell yourself the truth about what you want, not what others (family, friends, spouse) say you should have.

5. Tell everyone else your truth about what you want. Do not be afraid to share your vision and dreams with those you love.

6. You are not defined by your relationships unless you choose to be. Consider what it says about you if you deed over you soul to one (partner/relationship).

7. Interdependent (two independent functional people) relationships are the only ones that work, long term. (Not dependent or co-dependent) Read more: Why Your Partner May Not Marry You

8. Truth is the first thing necessary to create trust in our relationships. Respect is earned from trust, and love is earned from respect. Intimacy is the gift we get when we risk telling the truth. * See the hierarchy of a functional relationship

9. Fear of intimacy is fear of the truth. Your truth is better for you than someone else's. Just get to know what it is, so you can finally own it, and speak it.

10. If your relationship is not getting better, it is probably getting worse. Life is dynamic and nothing ever stays the same.

11. Every relationship is unique. It takes what it takes to work. If you want it to work, you have to work it. No shortcuts. No 50/50 deals.

12. It is not your job to fix your mate, and it is not his or her job to fix you. Take this relationship and what your mate says at face value and stop reading into it what you would like to hear. We can work with what is real. It is impossible to deal with what is not real.

13. Unconditional love is an inside job. If you have not gotten it by now, guess what...start working from within. When you can give it to yourself, you will be ready to give it to someone else. If you can give it to someone else, you will recognize it when it is being given to you. Joy can only be experienced in the present moment.

14. If you both are committed to creating a functional relationship, agree to start doing it today, without any judgments about the past. Be willing to work in the solution and let go of your need to control the outcome, moment to moment, one day at a time

15. Most of our fears about what may happen in this relationship are really fears we experienced in past relationships, and have nothing to do with this person. Come to grips with what's real and what's Memorex! .

16. When in an argument, ask yourself Does this really PASS THE SO WHAT TEST? For you to be right does the other person have to be wrong? Think about it. Life is short. Do not waste it on arguments that have no meaning or purpose. You can always agree to disagree if you need to. Then laugh about it, and go on to the next thing. Start observing your need to argue as just another dysfunctional, immature habit that needs to be broken.

17. When we finally learn to say we are sorry (at 3 or 93), we get to finally hear we are O.K. To error is human, and there is great virtue in all forgiveness, ourselves included. The best way to teach our children this lesson is by watching us demonstrate it. Read more22 Beautiful Wedding Quotes That Will Make You Fall In Love

18. Any negative, hurtful or sarcastic remark is abusive. Like a sharp knife, each word will carve out a chunk of a loving relationship that can never grow back. Please consider the source and outcome of your remarks; before you open you mouth to tell your truth.

19. Never let a day go by without saying and showing how much your relationship and partner mean to you. Never take a moment for granted. Express how grateful you are for your good fortune, however meek or humble it may be. Appreciation and gratefulness have magic in them. It seems the more we express them, the more reasons we are given to say thank you.

20. To have a functional relationship you have to be willing to risk loosing it everyday, by telling your truth. If you don't feel free to tell your truth, start asking yourself why you think it's so important to stay, and what else you are willing to lose besides your self-esteem. For starters, you can ask your mate to tell their truth, and be willing to accept it at face value, with no judgment. Now you both get to finally know if you each want a relationship based on what's real for each of you.
...For optimum results, start doing this in the first five minutes of meeting anyone.Read more: Ever Wondered Why Marriages Don't Work These Days? Find Out!
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Thursday, 14 June 2018

Ever Wondered Why Marriages Don't Work These Days? Find Out!


Marriage in the right definition is the legal union between a man and human as husband and wife. When marriage is taking place,it means the two separate individuals have agreed to become one and also live together and raise a family. Marriage isn't about how powerful or luxurious your wedding is or how expensive and popular the couple in question is, it's about living and surviving, tolerating each other. These days the rate of divorce is very high and it has made many people to question if it's worth it going into marriage.

Reasons Why Marriages Fail This Days

This article is written specifically for the reasons why marriages fail or doesn't work these days. Let's look at some of this important points:

1. Denial of sex: Sex is part of marriage and plays an important role in the life of couples. When there's lack of intimacy, the marriage begins to die off and this leads to infidelity and breaking of trust for each other.

2. Lack of contentment: In the world today there are many different men and women who look better in the outward appearance than our spouse in our eyes and this makes us wonder on how to have them. Though we know we can't have them yet we crave for such and this leads to lack of passion and complaints to our partner about their appearance which in turn leads to quarrels and unending conflicts. Most times,this attitude is more common among men.

Read: Do I Love Her Or Am I Just Lonely?

3. Social media and internet problems: Gone are the days when people cheat on their partners with  women  in hotels and other hiding places. Now logging in to your PC or smartphone changes a lot of things. With few clicks you are already in a chat with a new partner and already getting closer than ever before. That's what we get through the internet and when we are caught by our partner it really hurts them a lot and could sprang up new issues.

4. Missing attention from lover: Most people in the world today want attention more than love. We want people to care more about us, getting kisses from our partners and receiving their calls regularly, that's cool. Don't get me wrong it's good to have attention but are you aware that you can have all the attention in the world from your partner and still not be loved by him/her?  But this is true!!!
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Why Your Partner May Not Marry You


Dating is different from marriage and not all relationships lead to marriage. This brings us to the question, are there signs your partner might not be interested in getting married to you? Yes . And there are also signs that will make you understand that he or she might be interested to settle down with you. 

Human heart is deceitful and to make matters worse we don't even know what our partner is thinking about, but the good part is that you can notice it through the attitudes he or she expresses.


The worst thing ever is when you have all faith and trust in your partner believing that whenever you propose to her that she will say yes and when it gets to the point she says no to your proposal, it destabilizes you in many ways. You start to think of all the efforts, time, money and many other things you have wasted in trying to make the person want to settle down with you. In order not to get to this point, it will be best if you take your time and study your partner to the best of your knowledge by reading through the following points below:

1. No future plan discussions: When your partner isn't discussing or doesn't talk about you two settling down or how you two will look great together in the near future then you should be very careful of such a person. Whatever one talks about regularly, it's what the person is looking forward to achieving in his live. Whenever you are with your partner always look out for this point.


2. Not satisfied with his kind of shape or physique: Everyone has in mind the kind of shape or physique he or she wants in a partner. Your partner might be dating you for dating sake but may not want to settle down with you because you are not the kind of person they wish for. Some men want the big bold and beautiful or slim type while some ladies want the muscular or tall type. How do you find out about this? It's simple! They tend to admire them when you guys take a walk or even tell you how they admire such body and shape. This might not be serious but still put it into consideration.

3. Finance: If your partner is really much interested in wealth and how rich or even over ambitious about things of life then you got to watch it closely. She might want someone that's wealthy and classic and inwardly you know you are not to.Hey! Don't kill yourself trying to attain a height you may not be able to reach. Yes, she might say no to you if you propose!!!

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Wednesday, 13 June 2018

Filling For Divorce After 54 Years Of Marriage? A Message For Camille!

Camille Cosby filling to divorce Bill Cosby after 54 years of marriage

In as much as there is a provision for divorce only when one partner is unfaithful to the other  to the extent of committing adultery,there is still room of forgiveness for such erring partner.

Truly,a marriage that has lasted for 15,20 years is appreciated and the one that has lasted for 30-50 years has really endured.

Imagine how many times couples in such marriages have tolerated and forgiven one another in love for the sake of ''marriage'',''children'' and ''family''.

If young couple are talking of divorce when their marriage is still young say it is between 5 and 10 years,we could understand. It is then one could say the earlier the better. But how could someone,a wife,having endured all the troubles and tribulations of marriage for 54 years now file for divorce? 

Camille Cosby,74,is reported filling to divorce her husband Bill Cosby who is 80 years old. They both have been in marriage for 54 years now and her husband has been convicted of rape!

A report from a reliable source has it that Camille has left their family mansion,leaving her husband alone. While she was leaving the house,she left with multiple drivers,chef and her 3 grown kids also moved with her as well: 

"He literally is home alone," an insider told the publication before stressing that the two now live separate lives. "She even took the staff with her!"

 Dear Camille,it is unfair for you to leave your partner of 54 years alone and lonely because he has been convicted of rape. Haven't you seen more than that in your marriage of 54 years? Why leaving now?

There is no wisdom for leaving him,taking along staff of your family,including your children away from him!

If the court has punished him,are you not supposed to be there to show him pity and some forgiveness? I am very sure this is not the first time he's hurting you in the marriage. You've been enduring it for 54 years now and leaving your marriage now would make you lose everything you've got! Respect,love,great admiration from people and family!

Dear Camille,filling for divorce now is not answer of justice or a perfect judgement that you are hurt!

Let's just say you've taken a break to stay away from him for just a while,and we are looking forward to a time when the steam will melt away and you will unite with your husband again!!!




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Tuesday, 12 June 2018

Again The Brave Justice Adebukola Shows No Mercy As Senator Dariye Weeps For Bagging 14 Years In Prison For Corruption

Photos: Ex-Plateau state governor, Joshua Dariye, weeps as court sentence him to 14 years imprisonment for N1.1bn fraud

Yesterday,former Plateau state governo Joshua Dariye bagged 2 years in prison for criminal breach of trust and fourteen years for criminal inappropriation of funds without option of fine.

Joshua Dariye defected from PDP to APC in 2006 and currently,he is the senator representing Plateau west.

Ex governor of Plateau weeps in court as Justice Adebukola Banjoko sentenced him to 14 years in prison for N1.1bn fraud.

Photos: Ex-Plateau state governor, Joshua Dariye, weeps as court sentence him to 14 years imprisonment for N1.1bn fraud

Despite the plead by Dariye's Council,Paul Eroko to court to temper justice with mercy as his client was deceived by some people,Justice Adebukola still refuses.

“Appeals to your judgement do not succeed, we will fall on your mercy. The prisons are congested. They misled the governor, it is the bank, they said he didn’t have to present anything'' says Paul Eroko.
 Council to EFCC Rotimi Jacob says that Dariye shows no remorse and thus deserves not to be shown mercy:

“He is not remorseful, his case should serve as a deterrence.

It was at this point that Dariye said he wanted to speak and so he said:

“Have mercy, you are a Christian, your name is Jacob.''

After that,Justice Adebukola mercilessly sentenced Senator Dariye to 14 years in prison while Senate Dariye  weeps in tears.


Photos: Ex-Plateau state governor, Joshua Dariye, weeps as court sentence him to 14 years imprisonment for N1.1bn fraud

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''Stop Confusing Nigerians'' Soyinka Tells Buhari During Conferment Of GCFR Title On Abiola In Abuja



When we heard that Professor Wole Soyinka was invited to witness the GCFR title on late MKO Abiola,we began to wonder if Soyinka of all intellects would honor the invitation.

Yes,he did,but he spoke his mind at the event and spoke words that make Buhari feel cold and broke down in heart.

Take a look at Soyinka's mockery to Buhari's action:

“I would like to make a request Mr President that you stop creating confusion in the minds of Nigerians. Stop confusing Nigerians.  It is not possible to honor MKO Abiola in one breathe and and then admire his tormentor in another breath. Loyalty is all very well but that loyalty can become perverse if that loyalty is retained to an individual who if he were alive today, would be before the international court of crimes against humanity, one who broke the laws of Nigeria, committed crimes humanity. It is confusing if professional loyalty is carried so far. 
We had a private conversation sometime ago and remember that one of the things I mentioned to you was this, You are fighting corruption, how come it that a notorious corrupt ruler is honored by one of the most important avenues in the FCT. The answer you gave to me was not too satisfactory but I let it pass. Today perhaps is also a day for us to inaugurate our hall of shame to future generations''.
If President Mohammadu Buhari had known, would he have invited Professor Wole Soyinka to be with him on that faithful and historical day?
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Monday, 11 June 2018

Donald Trump And North Korean President Made History As They Meet For Submit In Singapore

Over the years,US President,President Donald Trump and North Korean Leader Jim Jong Un have been like east and west which never and would ever meet.

They have never been truly friends,but have been like cat and rat in the same world,acting without the interest of each other  in their daily political activities.

However,it seems the chain of hatred and antagony has been broken in ongoing Submit in Singapore.

For the first time,US President and North Korean Leader,Donald Trump and Kim Jong Un have a warm handshake with interest of each other at heart.

Breaking News: History is made as Donald Trump and Kim Jong Un meet for their summit in Singapore


They both look like ever good friends!

It didn't stop there,the two strong leaders had a private meeting which only their interpreters have to come in with them in Capella Resort,an isolated hotel in Sentosa Island in Singapore.

Breaking News: History is made as Donald Trump and Kim Jong Un meet for their summit in Singapore

Breaking News: History is made as Donald Trump and Kim Jong Un meet for their summit in Singapore

Update of the meeting also has it that both leaders meet privately without their advisers except with their translators Later,Donald Trump and Jim Jong Un came out with their shoulders high and smiles on their faces.After that,they went to their different rooms to meet with their various advisers.

Breaking News: History is made as Donald Trump and Kim Jong Un meet for their summit in Singapore

Breaking News: History is made as Donald Trump and Kim Jong Un meet for their summit in Singapore
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9 Surprising Things That Can Keep Your Relationship Healthy



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 9 Surprising Things That Can Keep Your Relationship Healthy

To listen satisfied couples tell it, the components that continues a courting thriving often involves being attentive to your associate greater, doing high-quality matters for them, and displaying them you aid and admire them. At the same time as those rituals are, of course, crucial and worthwhile, there are other (much less discussed) matters that also can maintain your dating healthy.

Under, you’ll discover 9 no longer-so-obvious but very well effective approaches to preserve your connection sturdy.

Spend More Time Apart

QT together is vital, as is QT apart, which helps to keep things fresh. By spending at least a few days or evenings a week away from each other, you’re guaranteeing that you’ll have new and different things to talk about when you’re together, which prevents your dynamic from growing stale,” says Paige Berger, dating expert with WhatsYourPrice.com. She adds that taking regular space will also help you be more patient with each other—i.e. you’re less likely to have a short fuse because the things that irritate you about each other won’t constantly grate on you when you allow for some breathing room.

Laugh at Unexpected Situations

A couple that can laugh together is far likelier stay together, says Heidi McBain, a professional counselor for women. “Things that keep you laughing and having fun are so important to the relationship as a whole,” she says. “See a comedy show, watch a funny movie, share silly memes, and goof around together.” The ability to lighten up will keep your relationship balanced, since serious moments and challenges are inevitable.

Get More Sleep—Together

A recent study found that couples who slept fewer than seven hours a night were more likely to have hostile, negative arguments. More sleep can also lead to more sex, says Chris Brantner, Certified Sleep Science Coach at SleepZoo.com. “If you want to increase your libido, get a full 7-8 hours of sleep. Lack of sleep throws your hormones out of whack and decreases testosterone, which is crucial for both male and female sex drive. It’s also worth noting that for the healthiest relationship, you should go to bed when your partner goes to bed. Research shows that couples whose sleep patterns are mismatched report more conflict, less time in shared activities, and less sex than those who go to bed together,” says Brantner.

Set Goals Together

Setting goals together and helping each other achieve them will build a healthy relationship, says Sarah E. Clark, a licensed therapist and relationship expert. “Whether they’re long term financial or personal development goals, or short-term projects that you work together to complete, the process of supporting one another to meet your goals will help you build a strong foundation.” (Plus, it’ll make you feel awesome and give you something to celebrate.)

Get Uncomfortable Together

Intimate relationships are all about vulnerability. “If you want a healthy relationship with open communication, you need to be brave enough to let yourself be vulnerable,” says Clark. “This includes telling your partner about things that matter to you, saying how you feel, and trying things together that are outside your comfort zone.” Opening up about something painful in the past or revealing something that you’ve never told anyone before can be huge for relationship development because it builds trust.

Have Exercise Dates

Getting moving with your partner can create an opportunity to serve as the other’s supporter. “You’re working as a team toward parallel goals of health and fitness,” says Justin Lavelle, chief communications officer and relationship writer for Beenverified.com. “Plus, watching your partner work hard and break a sweat can create feelings of admiration and attraction in you for the other.”

Start New Traditions and Routines

Perhaps it’s an activity you’ve both wanted to try, a skill you’re interested in learning, or a destination you both want to visit. Whatever it is, invest time in creating new traditions and routines for the two of you. Traditions help establish your shared values, interests, and priorities; setting new routines shows that you’re both interested in creating a future in which you carry them out together.

Do Chores Together (Seriously)

Teaming up on chores, boring as it might seem, creates the feeling that you’re functioning as a team. “For example, you can choose to do laundry or dishes together,” says Lavelle. “Whatever the task may be, the goal is to come together as partners and get it done.” Even better, the chore is way less lame when done together, and will create a sense of equality in your dynamic—you’re both pitching in.

Surprise Them With Little Things

Every so often, instead of rushing out the door in the morning, leave them a love note or slap a sweet post-it on the door. Pop by their office with coffee or fake a meeting. Surprise them with something sweet or kinky. These little gestures are like relationship extra credit—they keep the spark alive and your partner on their toes
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Sunday, 10 June 2018

101 Relationship guides Straight from Dating Experts






Being part of a couple can be stressful at times, but the best relationship advice are really all about maintenance keeping things fresh, finding time for each other, and coming up with ways to rotate the tricky ups and downs every partnership faces. Of course, it’s all easier said than done, so we’ve come up with 101 ways to make your relationship even better.

From how to deal with jealousy to a way to get over a probably lethal lull, we’ve gotten 101 dating guidelines you may start imposing right now.

1. Listen

It might sound obvious, but when you really allow yourself to listen—and ask questions about—what your partner says, it not only leads to better conversations, but also better communication.

2. Take a Few Days Apart

Missing each other is a great way to reconnect. Have a weekend getaway with your friends every few months.

3. Find a Support Team

Have a handful of great friends or family members you can call so your significant other doesn’t have to hear every small grievance going on your life.

4. Put Away Your Phones

One of the biggest relationship tips is to give your undivided attention when your partner is speaking. It’s is one of the most important things you can do.

5. Volunteer Together

Giving back is a great way to keep perspective of how great your relationship is—and how lucky you both are.

6. Create a Checklist

Jot down new and fun things you want to accomplish for a day as a duo.

7. Talk to Couples Over 65 Years Old

Get relationship tips from them, and see what you can take away to apply to your relationship.

8. Stop and Appreciate All That Your Relationship Is This Very Second

Stop living for what it can be. This person is choosing to be in your life every day, not every day in the future.


Check this : 5 Signs You Are Infatuated With Someone And Confusing It With Love

9. Revisit the Questions You Asked in the Beginning

What are you hoping to accomplish in the next year? What are you scared of? These answers change, so we need to keep asking these questions.

10. Find 10 Things You Really Love About Them and Tell Them

Everyone needs a confidence booster now and again.

11. Stop Nagging

Seriously, stop. Take a step back and figure out the big things about your partner that truly bother you, and approach him/her from a place of concern and support, instead of nitpicking for sport. That’ll get you nowhere.

12. Get Over Needing to Be Right

Learning to say “I was wrong” is a skill worth learning.

13. Take Care of Yourself

No relationship can be successful if you don’t feel good about yourself, both inside and out.

14. Know What You Need and Then Ask for It

You’re dating a human, not a magical psychic.

15. Take a Class

Couples who learn together connect on a deeper level. Find some common ground (cooking? art? science?), and go from there.

16. Stop Complicating Things That Aren’t Complicated Enough

Don’t pull a Carrie Bradshaw during the Aiden years: If you bemoan the fact that your relationship is going too well, you might need to revisit why you’re constantly seeking out drama.

17. Assume That If Something Was Said That Hurt Your Feelings, It Wasn’t Intended That Way

Why would they want to upset you or hurt you? Give your partner the benefit of the doubt, but if it’s really bothering you, don’t be afraid to bring it up.

18. Write Notes

Whether you have study hall together or live together, handwritten notes are personal touches in today’s highly digital world.


19. Pitch In

Help each other with chores and other necessary, if banal, activities—cooking, cleaning, re-organizing, etc. Not doing them if you live together can create tension, and always doing them can create unfair expectations. Act as a team of equals.

20. Disconnect

Step away from the laptop during quality time. Everything on the Internet will still be there later.

21. Allow Things to Be What They Are

Sometimes bad days and bad moods happen. Don’t go crazy trying to make everything better. Just be supportive and loving, because just being there at the end of a bad day can make it better for both of you.


22. Create Mini-Traditions

Creating small rituals can really help hold up a couple because they become “your thing.” Whether it’s a fancy night out during the holiday season, or watching a certain show every week, these are things that’ll give you both something to look forward to—and it’ll bring you closer together.

23. Be an Open Book

They can either deal with it or they can’t, but if you can’t be your most honest self with this person, it’ll come out eventually.

24. Compliment, and Often

You’re there to make each other feel like your best selves, so let the genuine praise flow freely. Like their outfit? Say it! Like their hair today? Let them know!

25. Make Promises That You Really Can Keep

Say things that you want to follow through with out loud. It’ll make you work harder to make them happen. Having—and setting—levels of reasonable expectations for your relationship is a healthy way to keep it strong.

26. Acknowledge Positive Actions

When you and your partner see positive actions, solutions, or behavior in one another, acknowledge it and remind each other to keep it up.

27. Establish Genuine Connections with the Other’s Friends and Family

Hang out together with both of your friends and family. This is the stuff that makes the world go ’round, people!

28. Pay Attention to the Tiny Things That Bother Your Partner

We’re not talking changing your laugh or your style, but if you know that your partner really hates it when you leave the kitchen counter cluttered, try to make a point of clearing it off before he/she gets home. It’s an easy enough thing to do and it makes their day better, so why not?

29. Never, Never Forget to Ask About the Other Person’s Day

It’s such an easy slight to avoid!

30. Be Considerate

If your partner’s day sucked and yours was just “eh,” let them have the pity (and the control of the remote, and the choice of take-out). If it’s you, announce it early and let them know you need the support. If it’s a toss-up, trade stories about why your days were so awful, and you’ll end up laughing while trying to figure out who wins.

31. Small Gifts Go a Long Way

Bringing home a pack of their favorite candy/magazine/book by a favorite author never gets old.

32. Graham Parsons Has a Song Lyric That Says “I Just Want to Hold You/I Don’t Want to Hold You Down”

Let that be your motto when you’re giving your partner advice.

33. Log onto Instagram and like All Their Photos

Just because.

34. Plan a Date Where You Revisit the Spot You Went on Your First Date

Remember all the amazing things that brought you from then to now.

35. Go on a Walk Together Somewhere Beautiful

And don’t forget to turn off your cell phones.

36. Surprise Them with Dinner

One unexpected night, surprise your partner with a home-cooked meal and a nicely-set table.

37. Review Your Top Five Favorite Funny Things Your Partner Has Done

Because your partner is funny! That’s part of why you like them.

38. Go to a Yoga Class Together

Or other exercise class together. Your body and relationship will thank you!

39. Go on a Road Trip, Even If You’re Not Going Anywhere Far

It’s nice to get out of town sometimes.

40. Pick up a Six-Pack of Toilet Paper or (Even Better) a Six-Pack of Beer

Without even being asked.

41. Keep the Surprises Coming

Think of your relationship as a creative challenge. To keep the romance fresh, come up with new date ideas, new sex positions, and new ways to demonstrate your love.

42. Plan Small Outings

Whether its brunch this weekend or a trip to a new neighborhood.

43. Make Out

Kissing is something that is often set to the side the longer a couple has been together. Out of blue one day, initiate a high-school style make-out session.

44. Let It Go

Don’t hold onto that thing your S.O. said or did six months ago and bring it up each time you get mad at him. Do both of you a favor, and let it go.

45. Don’t Interrupt

Even if what you think your significant other is saying is uninteresting, don’t bulldoze over his or her words. Being able to listen to each other—even when the details are mundane—is important.

46. Say “Thanks”

Let him or her know that you notice the little things he or she does by saying “thank you” for routine tasks like walking the dog or picking up groceries.

47. Cook a Meal Together

Come up with a menu, shop, and prepare the food together.

48. Have Fun with Hypothetical

Conversation can become routine. Break from the ordinary and have a silly dinner conversation made entirely of imaginary situations—for example, ask, “If you were on an island and could only bring five movies, which movies would you bring?”

49. Keep a Couple’s Journal

Write down your desires and fantasies, and leave them out for your significant other to find—then encourage him/her to write back.

50. Agree to Disagree

This is one of the most important relationship tips, as you both have strong opinions and therefore some issues will never be resolved. Respect each other’s point of view and agree not to argue about the same issue, unless it’s something that could get in the way of your future, like politics, religion, or values.

51. Set Goals

In addition to setting life goals, set relationship goals. For example: We aim to spend more time together outside rather than in front of the TV.

52. Take Responsibility for Your Own Happiness

Love is grand, but at the end of the day, the only person we can hold accountable for our happiness is ourselves. Do volunteer work, exercise, host dinner parties—find what satisfies you, and go from there.

53. Learn Each Other’s Conflict Habits

Make an effort to understand you and your partner’s conflict habits, so you can break bad patterns and find a middle ground that’s productive and respectful.

54. Define Love

While “I love you” is an extraordinary thing to say—and an equally wonderful thing to hear—it means something different to each person. Tell each other what you’re saying when you declare these magic words. It could be a list of many sentiments such as, “I would do anything for you,” and “I trust you completely.”

55. Take Turns Planning Date Nights That Are Actual, Real, Capital-D Dates

Takeout and TV doesn’t count.

56. Approach Your Partner’s Issues in the Context of How They Affect the Relationship

It’ll reduce the chances they feel personally attacked for no reason.

57. Cuddle

Make ample time for cuddling. Whether or not it leads to sex, physical affection is important.

58. Don’t Forget to Say “I Like You”

The greatest compliment you can give a partner (especially a long-term partner) is reminding them that not only do you love them, but you also like them.

59. Have a Spontaneous Midday Tryst

Send a text as they’re about to go on their lunch break, take time out on a Saturday, however you want to play it.

60. Travel Together

Seeing the world together creates amazing shared memories

61. Tell Them Exactly Why You Love and Appreciate Them as Often as Possible

“I love you” is good. “I love the way you make sure no one ever feels left out” is even better.

62. Stay out of Their Family Drama

It’s so not worth it.

63. Really Look at Each Other

We spend a lot of time with our partners, but sometimes we don’t actually see them. Take the time to actually look into one another eyes.

64. Give Each Other a Pet Name

It may be super annoying to other people (and you may want to reserve it for when you’re in private), but a pet name can add an extra layer of intimacy to your relationship.

65. Spend Time Alone

As important as it is to spend quality time with your partner, it’s equally necessary that you develop a good sense of who you are without them. Kahlil Gibran said, “Let there be spaces in your togetherness,” and we stand by that.

66. Eat at the Dinner Table

Do you eat in front of the TV? Try actually sitting down to a meal with your partner at an actual table. You may find it a welcome change.

67. In Fact, Turn the TV Off Altogether

Why not try instituting a TV-free night in your apartment? See what else happens when you spend time together sans the talking box.

68. Ask for Clarity

If you’re confused about what your partner means, ask for clarity instead of making assumptions about what they mean. Use an open phrase like, “What did you mean when you said, ‘xyz,'” rather than instantly going on the offensive.

69. Own Your Feelings

Passive-aggressiveness is a total relationship killer. Squash it by practicing assertiveness and clarity. Saying “I’m fine” when you’re not fine is a prime example of not owning your feelings.

70. Communicate in a Constructive Way

For instance, we think the phrase construction, “When ____ happens, it makes me feel ____” can be particularly helpful.

71. Take an Interest in What Your Partner’s Into

Into chess, or cheese, or cheese that looks like a chess board (maybe?). You don’t have to love it, but give it a shot. You may surprise yourself.

72. But Also Cultivate Your Own

You and your partner don’t need to have everything in common. Seriously. That’s actually really annoying.

73. Let Your Partner Teach You Something They’re Good At, and Vice Versa

Everyone—everyone—loves the feeling of being able to teach somebody they like about something they’re good at.

74. Bring Your Groups Together

It’s easy to silo your social lives and create separate worlds, but bringing your friends, siblings, or colleagues together can be a fun thing.

75. Don’t Forget About Sex

Work, stress, and other responsibilities can get in the way of your sex life, and before you know it, you’ve gone a month without getting busy. Don’t let this happen. Schedule it in if you have to, just make sure to connect in an intimate way.

76. But Do Forget About Jealousy

Jealousy can be completely toxic to relationships, so keep yours in check. If you’re always jealous, figure out if it’s your personal issue, or if your partner is doing things to appear less trustworthy.

77. Cultivate Your Appreciation

Spread what you love about your partner. Practice your appreciation by sharing it with others— not in a gross, gratuitous, bragging way, but don’t miss out on the opportunity to tell others why your partner is awesome. In turn, it’ll remind you why you like them, too.


78. Laugh—In Bed

Sex should be sexy, sure. But it should also be fun. Don’t be afraid to have a laugh if things take a turn for the ridiculous.

79. Let Yourself Be Taken Care of When You Need It

We all need special care on occasion. Let your partner help you when you’re feeling sick or down. It doesn’t mean you’re not strong, it just means you’re willing to accept help.

80. Check Your Competitive Edge

You and your partner are there to support each other, not compete with one another. If you find yourself comparing yourself or competing with your significant other, check your behavior. That’s not healthy!

81. Have a Bed Day

Allow yourselves a totally lazy day where you lie around and do nothing of note except enjoy each other’s company.

81. Be Kind to Yourself

The best way to develop positive patterns in a relationship is to develop them first with yourself. Don’t be so critical of yourself, and you’ll set a good example for your relationship.

82. Express Gratitude for the Little Things, and for Specific Things

Big gestures are great, but it’s great to recognize the little things your partner does that make you feel happy and loved, too.

83. Date like You Dated in High School

Ask each other out. Get excited. Take forever to get ready. Make out. Repeat.

84. Be Present

We can ruin a perfectly great relationship by focusing too much on the past, or worrying too much about what may happen in the future. Learn to enjoy where you are, and who you’re with right now.

85. Don’t Try to Control

A relationship isn’t a battle of wills, it’s two people who are choosing to be together, so don’t treat your partner like they’re some kind of wild animal you’re trying to tame.

86. Embrace Your Common Goals

What is it that you both want to ac
complish? Can you support each other to reach those goals? That’ll be a big piece of what will hold you two to together as a couple in the longrun.

87. Have a Cultural Experience Together

See a movie, a play, or an art exhibition together—and then talk about them afterward. You may be pleasantly surprised by how differently—or similarly—you viewed things.

88. Go on a Long Bike Ride

Bike rides are deeply freeing experiences, and it’s nice to be able to do that with someone you love.

89. Try Talking on the Phone

Yes, we know this sounds crazy, but phone calls are a different sort of communication than texting, or even in-person communicating will allow. You may actually deepen your connection through a phone chat.

90. Make a Mix for Each Other

It’s cute, romantic, and something out of a rom-com. Although in this day and age, you might want to make a Spotify playlist rather than a mixed CD.

91. Keep Yourself in Check

We spend so much time paying attention to how our partners behave, but take a second to notice how you’re acting—especially if you’re fired up or in a bad mood. And then give yourself a second to…

92. …Breathe

Before you say something you don’t mean, take a breath, and ask yourself if that’s really the way you want to move forward. Chances are, taking a second out will help you recalibrate and think of a more constructive way of handling the situation.

93. Help Each Other

This one is so easy, but if your partner is having a hard time with something—whether it’s doing their taxes or organizing their closet—offer a helping hand.

94. Be Their Biggest Cheerleader

If your partner accomplished something amazing, let them know it—and let them shine.

95. In Your Craziest Moments of Frustration or Anger, Remember What It Is That You like About Them the Most

There’s a reason you’re with them, after all—right?

96. Remember That a Relationship Should Always Make Your Life Better on the Whole, Not Worse

And aim to make sure yours is doing just that. If it’s not, it may be time to reconsider.

97. Enjoy the Quiet Moments You Spend with Each Other

Not everything has to be a big adventure or a big deal. Sometimes the best times are the quiet unplanned things you do together.

98. Make Sure You’re Taking Care of Yourself

Don’t let yourself get so invested in your partner that you forget to take care of yourself.

99. Let Go of the Past

We often let our past hurts dictate our present. Learn to let go of past resentments and fears in order to live more fully with your partner right now.

100. Touch Each Other Often

Simple touch builds intimacy — especially non-sexual touch. It’s a non-verbal way of saying, “Yes, I’m here for you, and I care about you,” and it helps reinforce your emotional bond.

101. The Best Relationships Are Ones in Which Both Partners Feel like the Luckiest Person in the World

Find ways to communicate that and foster that feeling in each other, and you’ll be good.


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Can Time Apart Make Your Relationship Stronger? See Answers From Lovers Experiences

15 people reveal if time apart made their relationship stronger & it

Yes,I know that if you are in a relationship with someone that melts your heart and probably you are in distances apart,you would ever wonder what would happen to your relationship.

This is because,not being around with your lover would make it difficult to see each other often and that which man sees that attracts and makes him keep with a woman would be missed. Then you ask: Can time apart make your relationship stronger?

Well,below are answers from people who have taken time out from their relationships are they have answers:

''I broke up with my boyfriend because I didn't think that it was working. Turns out I missed him more than words could ever describe and we got right back together. Only made us stronger.''

— u/mannequinsmile

''My husband and I took a break for 7 months. It was helpful in some ways and damaging in others... in the end we both missed our life together and decided to be back together and we are still together. I can say, I wish I would have never taken the break... there were things that we both did while apart that was damaging to our relationship now. But on the other hand... what if we didn't take a break? Maybe we would have never started to appreciate eachother again...''

— u/4m4nda24

''We took a break and after seven months we got back together and now we are engaged. We took a break because I was overwhelmed with the idea of a LDR. We got back together and it made us stronger than ever. In those 7 months, neither of us even thought about getting with other people.''

— u/CinnamonBunBun

We were fighting all day, everyday, when finally one of those arguments ended in legitimately breaking up. We were just relieved by the time it happened, I think we both knew it was going to happen eventually. What I wasn't expecting was how much I would miss him. I really thought it was what I wanted until it actually happened. He didn't just take me back though. I had to work hard to get him back and we are better for it. I respected that he wasn't going to be a doormat and it wasn't going to be a broken record make up/break up relationship. It was the best thing that ever happened to us. That was 6 years ago, we've since married and have a wonderful son and a truly wonderful marriage. He's the best thing that ever happened to me!''

— u/foreverafalljoke

I took a three month break when I was deployed because I hated the idea of a long distance relationship. Actually, it wasn't a break, I broke up with him. Thought about him the whole deployment and despite several opportunities to hook up with other guys did nothing because I was still in love with him. Got back together the day I returned and we've been happily married for twelve wonderful years.

— u/Call_me_Kelly

My then boyfriend and I took a four month break about a year and a half into our relationship. I had broken up with him because I was feeling like I was suffocating. He agreed he knew it was coming, but had assumed he'd be the one to do it. Not long into the breakup, we started talking a lot again and began mentioning that it all felt more like a break than a break up. We maintained contact while we both dated and had sex with others. Neither of us had dated much before, so we each learned a lot about ourselves... And realized all we wanted was one another. Four months after breaking up, he asked me to get back together with him. Fun fact, he asked me only moments after we conceived our now 1.5 year old daughter. The break taught us a ton and really helped us learn to appreciate one another. We're now married and so so happy together!

— u/GrowingASeahorse

A break during a previous relationship helped me tremendously...it allowed me to realize that I wasn't happy in the relationship at all, but was rather just afraid of being alone. The month we were apart gave me a chance to realize what kind of relationship I actually deserved, and now I am with a new boyfriend who is indescribably amazing (:

— u/xxChelidonis04


We actually didn't decide on a break, we just broke up but kept in touch. We both missed each other horribly and both worked on the stuff that ended things in the first place, got together again and we've been happy since. But yeah 90% of the time, a break dooms the relationship, because it usually means that the person who wants the break wants to f*** someone else without letting the safe person go, while not being wrecked with the guilt that comes with cheating.

— u/DarthMelonLord


In all,these experienced individuals who took a break or time out from their relationships found out that :

1 Taking time out in relationship helped them to see whether they have been with the right persons or not.

2.A break helped them to see whether they appreciate and are appreciated by their partners.

3.Taking time out in relationship helped to see if they would lose their loved ones just by being apart for a while.

Are you in relationship doubting whether he or she is the right person for you? You could try taking a break with your lover for a while. It is only break that can really confirm it to you!!!


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22 Beautiful Wedding Quotes That Will Make You Fall In Love




 

 22 Beautiful Wedding Quotes That Will Make You Fall In Love


Whether it’s your unique day or you’re simply celebrating in conjunction with absolutely everyone else, weddings are glad and wonderful events.

Tears of pleasure, laughter and infinite emotions – that’s what weddings are fabricated from. A wedding isn't just about a pair getting married.

It’s approximately vows of love and spending a lifetime collectively, the happiness on every person’s face, uniting households and having all of your pals beside you wishing you well. It is a day with many memories inside the making which you’ll never need to overlook.

Although the ritual is one-of-a-kind consistent with traditions all around the international, on the center, weddings are a time to celebrate love and that is the most effective issue that must rely – now not how glamorous the wedding is, but the beauty that it represents.

Words usually don’t come smooth if you have to describe the affection you feel in your future husband or wife, so in case you’re planning your wedding vows or maybe simply writing a toast to honor the brand new couple, here’s our series of wedding ceremony prices that will help you out.

1. A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.
     Mignon McLaughlin.

2. People are weird. When we find someone with weirdness that is compatible with ours, we team up and call it love.  Dr.Seuss.

3. Wedding is destiny, and hanging likewise. John Heywood
 

4. For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul. Judy Garland
 

5. Many people spend more time in planning the wedding than they do in planning the marriage.
    Zig Ziglar
 

6. A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences. Dave Meurer
 

 7. In all the world, there is no heart for me like yours. In all the world, there is no love for you like mine. Maya Angelou

 8. Every heart sings a song, incomplete, until another heart whispers back. Those who wish to sing always find a song. At the touch of a lover, everyone becomes a poet. Plato

 9. To get the full value of joy you must have someone to divide it with. Mark Twain
 10.    When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.   Harry, When Harry Met Sally

  11.    The greatest marriages are built on teamwork. A mutual respect, a healthy dose of admiration, and a never-ending portion of love and grace.  Fawn Weaver

 12. I would find you in any lifetime.  Kanye West

 13. I would rather share one lifetime with you than face all the ages of this world alone.
       J. R. R. Tolkien

 14. Once upon a time there was a boy who loved a girl, and her laughter was a question he wanted to spend his whole life answering.  Nicole Krauss

 15. The minute I heard my first love story I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.  Rumi
 

16. The highest happiness on earth is the happiness of marriage.  William Lyon Phelps
 

 17. Only one is a wanderer; two together are always going somewhere.  Vertigo
 

 18. Grow old along with me; the best is yet to be.  Robert Browning
 

 19. I love your feet because they have wandered over the earth and through the wind and water until they brought you to me.  Pablo Neruda

 20. When someone else’s happiness is your happiness, that is love.  Lana Del Ray

 21. Hear my soul speaks. Of the very instant that I saw you, did my heart fly at your service.

       William Shakespeare
 

22. Marriages, like a garden, take time to grow. But the harvests rich unto those who patiently and tenderly care for the ground. Darlene Schacht
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