Sunday, 24 September 2017

Hear Joke Silva talk about her marriage with Olu Jacob and her share of emotional Violence in marriage.


Joke Silva speaks on some of the precautions to be taken to prevent domestic violence

''I think in relationships, especially when we are angry with each other I think it gets to that point when you understand that you should withdraw. Like sometimes when I counsel young people, I tell them that
there is a tone that you recognize that if I push any further I will be in trouble. When you hear that you will hold, you will see it. It’s in the eyes, you can’t hide it.'' This was part of what Actress Joke Silva said in her interview with The Nation when asked whether women can really provoke their husbands into beating them.

Talking about what has actually kept the mama actress in marriage so far and so long,she said that leaving her marriage has never bothered her. ''I think people should know what their threshold of acceptability is. I think sometimes in this society, we tend to say you must stay in marriage no matter what it does to you. You hear some women who have stayed with their husbands right throughout the difficult times and when their husbands die they are so bitter because it seems that they wasted their life. This is something that the younger generations don’t know. That being said, I think there is need for both sides to see each other as human beings''. Joke Silva also says that calling her husband ''omoboy and her husband calling her ''Iya'',has helped her  to put their romance life on check. When the love titles change to something else,then she would know that something is has gone wrong!

Mama actress doesn't believe that women should endure any form of abuse or domestic violence in marriage. To her,once the heat is felt hot,the woman can pack her load and leave. This is what she says:''I think I’m very happy that more women are coming out and talking about it. The partners must give themselves space once the violence starts. I think it is the most spirit destroying action that one can take. I think it is sad when relationships get to that point. There is something I also want to mention that there is a violence that people don’t associate with domestic violence and that is emotional violence. Emotional violence is a violence that is so deadly you don’t see it. It damages the person psychologically and I think the onus is on those who love them.'' She concluded!!!