Thursday, 28 March 2019

Why Do Some People Love Abusive Boyfriends?


Why Do Some People Love Abusive Boyfriends? Alcoholism, Female Alcoholism, Girl

While nobody in actual sense enjoys abusiveness of any form,there are humans who actually go for  it or accept it especially when they are in love or in relationships. They belong to the female gender of humans. Could you imagine it?You can imagine a lady being so crazy about her abusive boyfriend who had abandoned her many times after some physical abusiveness. ''I just got dumped by my abusive boyfriend and I love him and I want him back. What should I do?''



Could you imagine that? While no one wants to have anything to do with abusive friends,someone is being onto it. She is being dumped  by her abusive boyfriend and she is begging him to come back. Is this love at fault? 



Well,some people may say a big yes,that she loves her boyfriend to a fault to the extent that even after being abused physically and emotionally,she still loves him more and cries to have him back. But to us,it is okay.



Everyone loves for a simple reason and that reason becomes very strong. When you get attracted to someone, everyone else would be wondering what the attraction is. They can't see it because it is not in their place to fall in love with such one. Only you can see it because you are the one that got the attraction!



Everyone has an imperfect fault and still has someone who loves him or her despite it. Some faults among humans could be selfishness,anger,envy,malis,hot-temper,jealousy,and the like. 



We have seen some irresponsible women got married to very important people and vice versa.Sometimes you might look at yourself as worthless of any good things of life and you see good things coming to you. There are simply things one can't explain in life but just accept them. Yes,there are still other things we fight against coming our ways and win at last. Everything bothers on what anyone wants and that is what he goes for.



Why do some people love abusive boyfriends?  There is something else they see in such boyfriends that blindfolds them and that is the attraction! It would make you see fault and overlook it. But the danger lies in the other person. Does he love you?



You see,this is where the issue of love comes in. If the man you love and crave for does not do the same for you,there is no good or healthy relationship between you people. What is even your reason for tolerating his imperfect fault if not because at least he loves you? Your love and craving for him becomes in vain he does not love you as well.



Don't try to force a man love or accept you because his abusiveness will become more dangerous thereafter. It's either you die in his hand or you beg for a way to get out of the miserable relationship. 


Dear Motivational friend,love a man who loves you. Reject the thought of  ''I cannot live without him''. Says who? Where was he when you were born? How has he contributed to your living or survival before you met him? He has barely spent some meaningful hours in a few months with you in a relationship and you feel you cannot live or survive without him. This is very very senseless,unbelievable and incomprehensible thing to think about.

There is no genuine love in life except where two hearts beat together as one because,it takes two to tangle,and not one!

No just one person in love or in a relationship can make a relationship meaning or workable. It doesn't work in a relationship and anyone who thinks she can try it would only keep beating in a bush without realizing any achievement at the end of the day.

Read more here: My Boyfriend Is Going To Break up With Me Again? What Should I do?

Love in return,covers a multitude of sin,makes all faults bearable!!!


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Thursday, 21 March 2019

If Woman Becomes Boss In Relationship You Will See These Dangers

If Woman Becomes Boss In Relationship You Will See These Dangers Beautiful, Business, Woman, Phone

I don't seem to understand it when a woman begins to play the roles of a man either in marriage or in courtship. Wherever roles are swapped,it becomes incomprehensible and senseless idea that a man should sit while the woman becomes the main actor.

Yes,sometimes,women are the causes. When they make themselves the boss of the house or the leader of their relationships!

Let's say a man or a husband loses his job,should the wife take up his roles? Not necessarily. It may seem to you the situation has presented itself for it but it is not true. What the man loses is his job. Not his position as the head of the family.

A husband loses his job and his wife begins to take care of all financial budget in the bid to help her husband. She goes to the market without asking him for money.The children ask for sweet and she would warn them not to disturb their dad. If a woman becomes boss in relationship,you will see these dangers:

The man would automatically have the licence to sit and watch at home. When he gets tired of sitting at home,he would go out to join other men who play draft. Before long,he would have become an idle mind and a lazy hand! Because the woman is now the boss of the household!

A man said he loves you. And the following week she's gone to the market and comes to the man's house with a load of food stuff. She has taken up the task of a wife already in few weeks of their relationship. She makes sure the man has enough food on his table with her hard earned money. Many times,she buys him boxers and singlet,perfect T-shirt,shell glasses,bracelet and all that! If a woman becomes boss in relationship you would see these dangers:

The woman becomes the giver and chief provider while the man,the supposed actor in the relationship becomes the receiver. He becomes manless because his girlfriend has taken his position as the chief provider!

We have also seen another set of women that have kept our mouth afloat. They are the first to call all morning to know how their guys spent their night. At midday hours they call to check on their guys and in the evening they would still do the same. I wonder the wombs that gave birth of this kind of women. Very senseless and shameless! If woman becomes boss in the relationship,you would see these dangers:

The man begins to feel sucked and emotionless. He is deprived of the feelings and strength that men get when they are in a relationship with women. Yes,the woman lacks the joy women feel when they are in the hands of their suitors.

I used to know of a boss lady whose boyfriend is both jobless and homeless. She took him in and they lie in the same bed.She has a business outfit where she sells goods and her boyfriend is the sale's boy who never touches money while she is the cashier that receives all monies. All the boy gets in return for his endless services is the daily bread on the table. If woman becomes the boss in relationship,you will see these dangers:

The man would continue to be handicapped and hand broken. Becoming a responsible man would be so hard for him to reach. And the woman would continue to have a lifeless man in the coat working for her. She would never feel the joy and satisfaction of having a man in her life.

Dear boss ladies,it doesn't make any sense being the boss your husband or boyfriend is made to be. When you take up the role of a man,you make him be a woman you are made to be. This makes no sense to me or any of my kind being the boss of your own household.

Read more here: How Can I Make myself Attracted To Men?

Learn to empower your man when he is broke. Raise him when he is down. Help him become A MAN and the boss of your household and you will enjoy what it means to be a woman!!!
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Thursday, 14 March 2019

How Can I Make myself Attracted To Men?

How Can I Make myself Attracted To Men? Girl, Love, Heart, Relationship
How Can I Make myself Attracted To Men?

Wow! This question sounds like ones' who has never been approached by any man in her entire life!  Some people may say that there could be no such people on earth who have never been approached by their opposite s*x but I tell you there are!

They are not imbecile,neither are they handicapped or  mentally challenged,but,they are just normal men and women like you who are reading this piece. How can I make myself attracted to men?

What kind of attraction could a woman be asking for in order to get herself a man? This is because,getting the most expensive powder and getting the best makeup artist in the world to give one a beautiful look does not make any woman attractive so forget about it. Cosmetics does not help in this regard!

The question of what a woman could do to make herself attracted to men is the same question a trader or a business owner would ask to attract buyers to patronize his or her goods. What could a business man or a trader do in his business in order to attract buyers to buy his goods? Change the color of his shop to perhaps one attractive color? Change his business type or repaint the brand of his goods? Well, all these attempts won't do so much to attract buyers to buy ones' goods. No doubt it would make the business outlet and products look beautiful and neat but unless the seller has what customers want he will not seller. How can I make myself attractive to men?

The same is applicable here in a woman who is seeking for an attractive mate for marriage. Painting or changing her color to attract men won't make men ask her hand in marriage unless she has what the suitors want for marriage!

Everyone naturally is good enough for marriage but attitude and wayward lifestyles could make one unattractive for marriage.

Some women do not know they worth more than many sparrows that they give out their most precious bodies to men all day- night for a price of  chicken!

Some become so gullible that they dance to the tones of others,follow the devilish ways that by the time they come to their senses they would have been worn off.

How can I make myself attractive to men? Be your humble self. Be a productive or an enterprising person. Live a meaningful lifestyle. Live a life of purpose.And show that your life does not depend on anyone to survive!!!

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Thursday, 28 February 2019

My Boyfriend Is Going To Break up With Me Again? What Should I do?

My Boyfriend Is Going To Break up With Me Again? What Should I do?  Pair, Man, Woman, Discussion, Difference

Nice question! And I believe this is a good question because to before warned is to before harmed. People who run to relationship counsellors early enough do by 80% save themselves of many pains. ''My boyfriend is going to break up with me again? What should I do?''

So how did you know that your boyfriend is going to break up with you again? Wait a moment,this is not the first time you would be experiencing a heartbreak and probably not the second time by the same boyfriend. Your boyfriend had broken up with you at some points before and you could see him trying to go into that path again. Well done!

This simply means,he  is trying to do the same thing to you over and over again just in the same manner he started the other. Frankly,something really fishy is wrong somewhere you people have not fixed and that is why you are yet to experience the same shipwreck with the same boyfriend.

Obviously you accepted this boyfriend of yours back to relationship without addressing former issues and setting things right with him. But why? You were so desperate,and you thought any waste of time to accept him would make him change his mind from you right? You also thought that everything would be fine as soon as you both are back in relationship eh? But hey,things don't work that way my dear lady!

You don't run away from today's problems and it disappears into the thin air tomorrow. When matters surface and it does not get solved,the reality of it is that it will rest and wait for you tomorrow,either in multiples or in plurals.

Don't ever beg your man or boyfriend to stay in a relationship he doesn't want to be into! Doing so is making him wask a stronger wings that would make him fly away.

In relationship,it takes two to tangle,and two hearts to beat as one! Anything short of this law of nature breaches it and makes lovers fall and tear into pieces.

My boyfriend is going to break up with me again? What should I do? Well,nothing much should you do in this case to keep a man who wants to leave for good. Beg him and he would see himself very important. Sacrifice for him and he would see you looking very stupid. Pretend you cannot see him losing out of the relationship and he would see you as very senseless!! These are what one could get by paying attention to a boyfriend who doesn't want to stay.

You see,you need to understand you are in a relationship and not in marriage. If you at the stage of 'relationship' would beg a man to stay what would you do if he is in marriage with you? Remember,affairs and matters in relationship level are lighter and simpler to handle than when in marriage.

If you notice that your boyfriend is about to break up with you,ooh you are very fortunate to notice it. Begin to feel less concern too. In fact,try to feel more indifference about it than he would.Then the result is that he would be the one to ask ''what is happening and why you are behaving the way you are!!


In everything,do well your own part and let what would be,be!!!




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Friday, 22 February 2019

IRRESISTIBLE Tips In Choosing A Suitable Life Partner!!

IRRESISTIBLE Tips In Choosing A Suitable Life Partner!!

So a mother who just celebrated her 50th year marriage anniversary shares with us some tips on how to choose a suitable life partner.

This woman who has lived with a lovely man,a husband for over 50 years now does not feel that marriage is a whole accomplishment but says it could be a fulfillment if these tips are applied.

To her however,marriage is good but there is a whole BUT in it. This she also shares with us in a so long a letter about marriage and singleness she gives to both married and single as her give-away-gift.

She titles it LOVE and MARRIAGE.Enjoy it!!

''As I reflect regurgitatively on the role marital relationship plays, it occurred to me that whether we are married or single, there is a place for all of Us in God's service. So find your place and remain there. Don't let anyone pummel you or rush you into a lifelong relationship of unhappiness and emotional torture.

Those that remain single either by Choice or by their lot in life should be encouraged and appreciated. We should be careful with our choice our words. We ought to avoid questions like: "brother when will you marry?" Or "Sister no husband yet?" Please let sleeping dogs lie.

Remember, marriage is not totally connected to happiness, but some times  unhappiness. You can be married and still be lonely. It is better to be single and happy than Married and Miserable. Don't forget that when you embrace fantasy and argue with reality your Life becomes miserable!

 However, if you choose to marry you will do well only if you marry the right person. Don't rush out of your father's house just because your parents are poor or maybe they do things you don't like. If you can't tolerate the short falls and imperfections of your parents and siblings, then you are not yet prepared to tolerate the shortfalls & mediocrity of your spouse for the rest of your LIFE.

When selecting a Life partner, do not look at the body, rather, look at the Mental (IQ), Moral and spiritual engine. The body can be taken to a mechanic or panel-beater for surgery, and with some money you can make her Up to specification. However,  a morally disjoint and crooked single person cannot be made straight in a marriage. So avoid "I will change him" mentality. If he/she is not okay for you right now, he won't be okay even in 10 years time. Please, don't  marry a spiritual looser out of pity or for financial gratification. Those things don't last and you will soon face the harsh and unbearable realities.

My dear, take note that TRUE LOVE is not an Emotional Roller Coaster ride. TRUE LOVE do not give account of an injury in an invoice. It is devoid of Fantasy, Fallacy and Fiction (FFF).
Above all, TRUE LOVE is not Sacrosanct or trouble free; it has its own Peculiar Challenges. If you have found true love, Congratulations! Hold on to your soulful desire and don't let it slip off your fragile hands. But if you are yet to find a suitable Person, please don't give up. Keep on searching prayerfully while improving on your inner qualities and outer skills. God will surely grant you your Heart desire no matter how long you have waited.

Apart from Moral and Spiritual qualities, compatibility or lack of it can make or mar a marriage. Principled courtship provides ample opportunity to get to know each other very well. A moderately long courtship could help to detect irreconcilable differences.

Most importantly, The Bible emphasizes the importance of love in a marriage. Tender affection (Greek, phi·liʹa) is needed in a marriage. Romantic love (eʹros) brings delight, and love for family (stor·geʹ) is vital when children enter the picture. However, it is love based on principle (a·gaʹpe) that ensures the success of a marriage. Concerning this love, the apostle Paul wrote: “Each one of you must love his wife as he does himself; on the other hand, the wife should have deep respect for her husband (Ephesians 5:33). Above all, only when you & your partner  work hard to "REMAIN IN GOD'S LOVE" can you live happily ever after!''

Read more here: Grievous Breakup Mistakes That Destroy Chances Of Getting Back Together
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Friday, 15 February 2019

Grievous Breakup Mistakes That Destroy Chances Of Getting Back Together


Grievous Breakup Mistakes That Destroy Chances Of Getting Back Together

What many people do not know about breakup is that it is not the end of any relationships but a clear break in romantic relationships. This is our own definition from Monikmotivational.com. This is because,during breakup in relationships,the chances of getting back together or losing out completely is 50:50.

It is out of place to say that it doesn't make sense to expect an ex come back or want to make up with an ex otherwise,it would have been very senseless and such a shame for one who says so to have been in that relationship in the first place.

If the partner didn't make any sense to you why would you have accepted to share part of your life,time and precious resources with him or her even if it is for a day,a week,a month or for a year?

Breakup happens when there is disappointment,when expectations are not seen coming forth or when one party does not see light coming at the end of the tunnel. So you take a break and give things chances to work things out for themselves. Only for someone you love would you expect something good of achievement to happen. Disappointment you feel because you expect something more reasonable from him or her. Not able to see light at the end of the tunnel because you expect him or her to shine above their limits. Only from someone you truly love would you expect something of so great and important.

 Breakup mistakes that destroy chances of getting back together!!

Truly speaking,100% of genuine lovers in relationships would expect their ex to back during their breakup. We are not talking about those in lustful relationships or to those guided by the spirit of infatuation in relationships. This is for genuine lovers and here are mistakes that destroy chances of coming back together they shouldn't make!!


  • Do not divulge your ex's secret with either your friends or his because of anger or disappointment. Somehow,your ex will get to hear about it and feel more strongly to stay away from you.



  • Everyone makes mistakes. Do not share your ex's mistakes with people either on social media or anywhere else just to show you are not at fault in the breakup. Infidelity which destroys relationships is not only about fornication or adultery, but also in the inability of not respecting part of someone's life.



  • There was a friend who broke up with her husband after five years in marriage with two kids. instead of lying low or going into hibernation,she took to her social media page,and everyday she would  show how stupid some men could be. If only she didn't allow the situation take her better self,she would have kept the whole thing to herself,knowing her husband is also watching her reactions. Her ex saw himself as part of what she daily discussed on her page,and feels irritated to make up with her. Do not walk on her path!!



  • If you speak injuriously of your ex,you are making him or her not to see any good in you anymore. So how would he or she come back? What is the drive that speeds off interest in relationships?



  • But you really want your ex back.Everyday and night you wish you both are still together so you could talk the way you used to and never say goodbye to each other. You can still get him back because breakup is not the end of a relationship.He still loves you but wants to see things turn around better. You can only help the situation by doing better.
Because you and your ex had allowed strong feelings to grow in your emotional lives,it won't be easy to just let go forever. Keep a positive look at things and rather than dwelling on your ex's mistakes and sharing it out publicly,keep busy working on yourself and you will not have a dime time for stupidity.

If he finds what he wants in you,no mountainous fall or crack in the sky will stop him from coming back for him!!!
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Wednesday, 30 January 2019

Should I Beg My Ex Lover Back?

Should I Beg My Ex Lover Back? -Divorce, Separation, Relationship

Should I Beg My Ex Lover Back?

Should I beg My ex lover back? Who is asking us this and why? You will find out before the end of the discussion but trust me,the gender is female.

When men have breakup in their relationships they don't get perplexed. They move to realize something better for themselves. And when they realize their ex is the something better for them,they go back and mean serious relationships.

But you see our girls,reverse is the case. When their guys start behaving strange they start panting. And when the relationship is finally down they think everyday of their life to see whether their ex have gotten other women in replacement of them. Should I beg my ex lover back?

Women easily and usually lose hope in their breakups whereas men keep calm and focus on what they want. It takes a woman plus,a woman who has manly character and not just a tom boy to be less concerned with any man who breaks up with her.

Should I beg My ex lover back? Well this is what happens when you beg your ex lover back:


  • He wouldn't have respect for you. It goes in everything one is begging for showing that one doesn't deserve it and that he or she is simply helpless.



  • When you are begging your ex,you are telling him that he should please manage you. That you know you are nothing so precious for him. How could any reasonable man take you my dear lady when real men go for potential and substantial women?



  • Research and evidence have proven that when women beg their ex to return they give them more reasons to run further. This is like a seller begging a buyer to buy his product when he is in doubt about it. No potential buyer will buy the product,respect it or use it with pride after all.


Rather than beg your ex lover back do this:


  • Try to examine all that have transpired between both of you. What happened? How did it start? How did it end? Doing this will help you see who is at fault and the next actions to take.



  • If you find out you are the reason for the breakup,send a text message to him or call him not to beg him to come back but to state where you faulted and that it wasn't intentional. Tell him you are sorry for hurting him and losing something that meant well for both of you.



  • It is the responsibility of the ex to come back and in fact it is expected of him to do so after you have taken the  immediate above step if he ever meant well for you in the first place. If he doesn't,don't worry. Just understand that you had been in a relationship all the while with a wrong person and that the breakup happened to let you out of bondage. 



  • Don't ever beg an ex lover to come back to you simply because of love. Love is not enough in serious relationships because serious relationship is not only about romantic affairs!



  • Breakup is good. Most times it makes ex realize the full makeup of the other and help them see if such makeups are what they need. 

  • If you beg your ex to come back when he is no longer interested and he does out of pity you will continue to beg him to stay all your life otherwise he leaves again!



Read more here: How Do I Know He Really Loves Me?

Use the time you want to beg your ex to come back and work on yourself. If you really work on yourself,you will surely become a full potential woman any man would like to have including your ex lover. Then,you will see yourself being trooped for rather the one begging a man to stay!!! 
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If Your Guy Doesn't Contact You Does It Mean He Doesn't Miss You? Enjoy This!!

If Your Guy Doesn't Contact You Does It Mean He Doesn't Miss You?- Polar Bear, Bear, Teddy, Sleep, Lazy
This is another interesting topic coming your way from the thoughts of romantic experts in the platform of Monikmotivational.com.

The topic is not only timely but its contents are points that will suit your soul. I can tell you that the number of our ladies who have lost their lovers for not contacting them are  so great to mention. If only they have had this brought to them earlier,if only they have made time to search and read,such beautiful relationships wouldn't have been abandoned or dragged to the mud.

Below is the opinion of one of us given from his personal experience you can learn from. If Your Guy Doesn't Contact You Does It Mean He Doesn't Miss You? Enjoy This:

''No,Not always true. I can’t speak for everyone, but this is my honest opinion.
Sometimes we truly miss you. We miss us. But we can’t see you sad/guilty any day.
I blocked myself from the one I truly love with all my heart and stayed out of her life for I want her to be happy and not sad or guilty any day.
Back then, I used to go out of my way to love her.
Now, I went out of her way and life to love her even more.
When I realized that I still love her and she doesn’t have any feelings for me, I decided to LET HER GO and I started staying away from her. It has been close to four and a half years now and I still love her, but staying away.
If you love them truly and genuinely care for them and all they need is some space, away from you, for now or forever, you will stay away. You will try your best staying away to get them back, but you will be happy for them and their happiness with or without you in their life, for you love them truly.
When I saw her feeling bad and guilty, I decided to stay away from her. I will continue to love her silently but don't want to be close to her until she feels the same way or she gets married to the person she will love in the future. My love for her wouldn't change and it is unconditional. Love is always unconditional. There is no past tense in love. Will always care for her and her happiness. What else would I need other than seeing her happy? I want that in my life. But if she is happy with someone else, it will sting me every single time to see her with someone else but I will still wish her to be happy. Above all, true love is selfless and wishing the best for the one you love. If it is meant to happen it will happen someday. Till then love in silence is way better. The heart always wants what it wants.
It hurts. It hurts real bad. It stings. There is a pang in your heart every single time you think about them. You care for them that much and you love them that much. You experienced pinnacle of happiness when you were with them, and now when they leave, you experience nadir of sadness. It really hurts because you still care and you will care, even though they are with you or not. Your heart will still care.
But just remember it wasn't easy for them to let you go as well. Sometimes they leave because they can't see you sad. She left me that way and I completely get her view on this. She cared for me as a real friend and I love her even more. It stings me and I feel how much it would have hurt her too. She asked me to stay away for I can move on, little did she know that she was the one whom I genuinely love after my parents. I am still staying away for I want her to be happy. To be guilt free. I can't see her sad any day.
We all know how much it stings us because we experience it. But we all should know how much it would hurt them too. I really care about her and her happiness still. That is what love and care is all about. If it was just distance and time that would make someone unlove, then love would be an easy thing. It isn't. True love will never fade. It still stings but there is s sweetness in that pain and tears are more sweeter.
May be I love her way too much and pushed her away, but it is the only way I know to love her, because she still means the whole world to me. I really have that hope that she is happy and if at all she comes back, she will still be the only princess in my life. If at all everyday in life wanted to ask: "would you like to save today's changes?" World would be an awesome place. But that's what life is all about. We all make mistakes and we learn.''
Prasanna Venkatesh's contribution.


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Monday, 28 January 2019

How Do I Know He Really Loves Me?

How Do I Know He Really Loves Me?-Couple, Silhouette, Love, Romance
How Do I Know He Really Loves Me?

Okay so I prefer the question: ''How do I know he really loves me to be the other way round-How do I know I really love him? I want you to be the actor here so that you will know what it means to love.

A nursing mother does not need to go for any child care orientation to know how to care for babies but she is the one to be consulted to give out tips and measures of caring for babies. The tips were  already given her naturally the moment the baby came into her life.

If you are in a relationship with someone you love,you also already have in you the romantic tips and spices that would keep you forever in love. This is because,love has elements of feelings only those in unselfish love and relationship have and share with each other. How do you know he really loves me?  Let's use your own evidence.

What do you do to show your boyfriend that you cherish him and would not want to lose him to another woman? You know it all.


  • You would always want to talk with him,see him,hear his voice and even be with him.



  • At every moment you remember him you want to call him or flash him to call you. Yes you are missing him.



  • Your boyfriend is always in your mind not just in your quiet or lonely moments but even when you are busy.



  • If you really love your boyfriend,you would not see any other man around attractive for any romantic affairs. No matter how much he impresses you,you are not moved because your mind is closed for the man you love.



  • No matter how much your boyfriend offends you you would never have a grudge or be so bitter with him. Just when you see his call coming your heart is leaped with joy and lips are filled with smiles. You love your boyfriend...



  • Sometimes when your boyfriend is troubled you sense and feel it even when you haven't heard from him or he hasn't said a thing to you.



  • When you are on telephone call with him,you feel it should be forever. You wouldn't want to hang up the line or say bye right? That means you really love him sweetie.



  • Any woman who is in love is always full of life and happiness. The radiance in her is simply indescribable. Enjoy it sweetie,you are in love.



  • A woman who loves her man would want to help him improve and grow a better person. No rival spirit,no competition with a loved one.


So dear Motivational friend,how do you know he loves you? How do I know he really loves me? Feel relaxed baby...if you see all of the points of evidence mentioned above and more like it in him,know that your boyfriend really loves you.

There are no two ways about it. Love is love,when it comes you see it because it comes with feelings!

Yes,if you do not see all of the above mentioned tips or evidence of love or more like it,it is a clear evidence that your boyfriend does not love you enough! Like relationship experts would say: ''If you give your boyfriend 100% love and attention and all you get from him is 50%,get out of the mocking relationship! It is not healthy for you!!!

Read more here:Simple Ways to Stop Messing Up Your Relationships 


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Wednesday, 23 January 2019

He Said If I Don't Lose Weight He Will Break Up With Me.Should I?


He Said If I Don't Lose Weight He Will Break Up With Me.Should I? Whisper, Secret, Mystery, Stealth

Hmm,what a matter of ''Do this to please me if you want us in together.''  'He said if I don't lose weight he will break up with me should I?'

What do you think? Should this big and beautiful full lady lessen weight just to safe her relationship? While many say NO,others,just very few suggest that she do as her boyfriend says. 

Well for me,it is a two way things.It could be YES and It could also be NO depending on whom this boyfriend of hers really is. Is he a claimed suitor or a genuine one? Does he really mean marriage or is he just a passerby?

I mean,if this fat and beautiful lady is just an ordinary girlfriend to this man, doing whatever he suggests even against her wish is simply pure stupidity since he is not a meaningful boyfriend to her. Such a man doesn't have a huge interest or great plan for future with her and so why ask her to reduce her weight as if he owns her?

But if the man in question is Mr Right and not Mr Right now to the lady,yes,he has every right to ask or tell his lady things to correct in herself.

It is not wrong! While some people argue that a man who loves you would accept you the way you are I say yes,that is true but it is not also bad if he sees some part of you not suitable for him and he asks you to work on it. It is only a man who genuinely loves you and has good intentions for you that could boldly tell you all that! Passerby would see things that would hurt you  but won't tell after all they would never have to carry your cross or ever share part of it with you in future.

Why would a man who loves you enough to make you his wife not ask you to change certain things about yourself for his likes? If you really understand the point and relevance of courtship part of which is that it is a period in which two lovers interested in each other for marriage have a close relationship to see whether each of them is acceptable to themselves.

In courtship which is a step higher than dating,both parties talk about future,aspirations and goals together. If you have interest in someone you love and you find out that he or  she has an attitude that will make future difficult for both of you would you not say it and suggest that he or she changes it? If that party really has interest in you surely he or she will change for compatibility purposes.

Read more here: List Of Different Needs In Relationship. Which Is Yours?

So what is wrong if a man wants his woman to add or reduce weight for his likes? Is it not for his pleasure after all? Will it not be for the benefit of the woman as well if her appearance pleases her man brings him smile? What are you saying??

True love is about accepting someone who has your expectations to a large extent without pretense. You can't truly love and accept someone who has not met your expectations and sometimes expectations met include  changes one makes for the likes of his or her suitors!!!





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Monday, 21 January 2019

What To Do When Your Ex Is Wanting You Back!

What To Do When Your Ex Is Wanting You Back!-Woman, Man, Pair, Keep, Trust, Passion
What To Do When Your Ex Is Wanting You Back!

So he has finally realized you are just the right person for him right?  That serves him right. And he realizes this because of whom you truly are,the action you took and your approach towards relationship. Well done gal.

You see it is not in every failed or broken relationship that ex later comes back. Some would wait for dunking years praying and changing their attitudes to be likable,while others would seriously engage in some other actions one could think of to see if their ex would come back but to no avail. Yes I have see so many who never did any thing to impress their ex and still have their ex come back to them. That is life!!

However,I have also seen situations where some ex came back but the doors were completely shot on them without even a green dim light. That is a case of forgiven and forgotten relationship!

But what if you have been longing for your ex to come back and he does come what should you do? How should you act? Should you openly embrace him and throw for him a welcome party?  This is what to do when your ex is wanting you back!!

What To Do When Your Ex Is Wanting You Back!


  • First let him see  that your life does not depend on anyone who leaves you. This means you should not give him an open embrace immediately.



  • Next time he draws nearer,remind him of his last words or actions that ended the relationship. Watch him act and see if his response is reasonable.



  • Ask him what he wants from you this time. Refuse it if he tells you ''relationship''. Remind him you have had a relationship with him before. This is where and when you will know his true intention for you.



  • Avoid any further waste of your time with him.Give him room to go for marriage rites with you and if he is not willing open the door wide for him to leave you for good because there would still be a second breakup.



  • Any ex who comes back has made up his mind to walk down the isle with you. If you still love him enough to do the same with him and he declares this intention it is now time you open wide your arms for him.



  • Love him like you never did before and make him feel loved.



  • Forgive him completely in such a way that when you remember your breakup with him you won't feel hurt anymore.



  • Yes,make changes that will suit him and make him appreciate and love you more.



  • Finally,respect this gentleman and respect him to the moon and back!!


Do not feel bad that you had a breakup with your ex and he is wanting you back. Breakup is one of the right processes that lead to building a stronger relationship that will pass and endure the test of times to come.

When you check properly,you will find out that majority of divorces we have today are of those who never had breakup or who conceal serious issues and neglect them while they were dating!!!



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Friday, 18 January 2019

Is It Okay To Revenge On My Ex Or Leave Things For Karma?

Is It Okay To Revenge On My Ex Or Leave Things For Karma?-Divorce, Separation, Relationship


Most times,this is what is presented in the minds of people who are victims of breakup-Vengeance! Everybody especially ladies want to revenge on their ex for leaving them for some other persons. Well vengeance is not 100% wrong in a sense but what makes it unnecessary is that it won't give you any positive result. I mean your desired expectations.

What would you get when you revenge on your ex? Yes he hurts you,he leaves you and he chooses another will you get healed or get your ex back by revenging? definitely NO! 

I don't understand why some ladies would go after tarnishing the image of their ex and even going to the extent of visiting spirit medium to cause madness and render useless anyone that has broken up with them. 

Dear ladies,this is rather too too far steps to take. Rendering your ex useless for breaking up with you does not justify the break up itself. In what way has he rendered you useless by breaking up with you? I don't see that. 

When you begin to have the feeling that you are being rendered useless by anyone who leaves you,you are telling him that your life,your strength,your success and all worth of  your life depend on him. What kind of person are you??

Ladies of my kind would rather pick up themselves,dust off the shit and tell themselves they are the finest of their kind any man could get and work out wonderful things for themselves their ex would later see and yes feel regret they were the ones that left.

Yes that is the greatest revenge you can give any man that breaks up with you! Show him you are a beautiful stuff of material only potential guys can get and that would make him look nothing but of a lesser kind for not being able to have you. That is the kindest and best kind of revenge you can give your ex baby...

Why should you let down on yourself and on womanhood by going into fetishness and harming your ex? Leave your ex alone. Let him live his life to the fullest and watch you become more of potential things only potential men could have.

You can get back your ex you know if you still love him by building on yourself and by being positive!! I am a living example and I won't tell you how until you ask me for it!!! Read more here: 10 Ways To Extinguish Romantic Feelings For Someone



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Monday, 14 January 2019

List Of Different Needs In Relationship. Which Is Yours?

What Are Your Needs In A Relationship?-Shelter, Rain, Couple, Umbrella
What Are Your Needs In A Relationship?

You see,this question is very important. Most people see relationship as a MUST channel that leads people to marriage. Yes, people still have different  needs in their relationships other than marriage intention. This is to say that different people have different purposes or reasons why they are in relationships. So you,what are your needs in a relationship? Why are you in a relationship?

Here are general reasons why people may be in relationships and hope you find yours or otherwise please write to us in the comment box.


  • Just want to know more: Not every party in a relationship is a lover. Some people want to be in relationships just to know the other person more. Does this make them become lovers after all? Well,these kind of people seem to be on a mission to  just know more about the other person and that is it.



  • Another reason why people are in relationships is to get connected. For example,if you want to get connected with someone who is far above your reach,it might be easier to achieve this through someone closer to him perhaps his aide. Unfortunately,this aide may ask you for a relationship before giving you a link and sometimes you might even be the one wanting a relationship with the aide just to get what you want.



  • To grow careers. Yes,this is another strong reason why some people may be in relationships.  Whether you love someone or not,the moment you find out that one man or even a woman has all it takes to help you build your career and achieve success,if he or she asked you for a relationship would you say no? Well,no desperate career lady or gentleman would say that. It is always yes to anyone who has all it takes to make their dreams come true.



  • Satisfaction of romantic feelings. Whether it is infatuation or true love,once someone has feelings for an opposite s*x,his or her need is to be in a relationship with his or her crush.



  • Marriage: This is one genuine reason why lovers want to be in a relationship. Yes they want to be in marriage with each other and live with each other as long as they are alive.

  • For escape: This is especially so when someone just has a breakup or lost a lover to someone else. At that moment your heart is still open to love and it is only a relationship with someone else that could fill this need. To escape boredom, feeling of rejection,pains and sadness associated to breakup,one needs to be in a relationship.

  • To have a child: There are some people who are in relationships with opposite s*x just to have children. Once this is achieved,the relationship is over.


What are your needs in a relationship? Please tell us!!!
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Thursday, 10 January 2019

10 Ways To Extinguish Romantic Feelings For Someone

10 Ways To Extinguish Romantic Feelings For Someone Love, Heart, Harmony, Affection


If you are a girlfriend trying to make a man stay and he is knocking off,don't worry, your story will soon be over. But if you are a man trying to make a woman stay but she is puffing up, try harder because your story in life will never change for good without her. Don't worry,you will understand this,at the end of this article.

But why would someone extinguish,that is quench or kill a romantic feelings for someone when love is ooh...sweet? Surely there has never been love in return. Someone reading this has been trying to force love be but love has refused to stay!!

If there is anything that tears the heart in pieces,making it shapeless in figure, it is not when the heart is in want of love but when it is opened to love but does not see love in return. It breaks and shatters the whole being of the heart,mind and soul!!

Read this: Is It Okay To Wait For Someone I am Not Sure Of His Or Her Love?

If you love someone but he or she does not love you in return,it is a total waist of huge resources. You really need to extinguish such romantic feelings for the unlovable to avoid getting love sickness. Here are what you should do to extinguish romantic feelings for someone who doesn't love you in return:

How To Extinguish Romantic Feelings For Someone


  • Always remember there is no best of anything including man on earth. Why dying for someone you may even be better than?



  • Nothing last forever. Even if you are loved,it's only going to be temporary. Sooner or later,that love will expire and still leave you living without him or her.



  • Don't forget,'no one can ever love you as much as you love yourself.'  You need little or no one especially to survive.Why die for reasonably nothing?



  • Think less of anyone who does not want to be with you and spend more time building yourself to be your better self.



  • Again remember,the feelings you have for the unlovable was generated by you. You can also destroy it by revising actions you took to develop the feelings for that person. Yes,think less of him everyday.



  • Begin to see perfection in other opposite s*x around you. In that case,he will be shifting while you are making room for others.



  • Most times,the people we have genuine romantic feeling for are those who do not have much to write home about. Just commoners,trying to fix things. Always have this in mind.



  • It takes two to tangle you know?Anyone who does not love you in return is not worth thinking about. It can't work. Even if you buy it and force it to be,you will not enjoy it. Simply leave it!!



  • Any man or woman who doesn't love you loves someone else. This doesn't mean he hates you. It simply means there is someone out there who will love you even more than you expect or ask for. Leave the unlovable and wait for your lover's arrival.



  • Finally,when his memory comes to your mind,don't frown at it. laugh at it and simply wave it off!!

Yes,if you are a woman trying to keep a boyfriend who does not want to stay,you are wrong! Why are you making it look as if you cannot live with him? Men are the people who cannot live without women because women are their compliments. Men need women to live,succeed and survive in their lives and that is why if you are a man trying to make a girlfriend stay,you really need to try harder by caring more because you need her,a woman to live your life!!!
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Wednesday, 9 January 2019

Is It Okay To Wait For Someone I am Not Sure Of His Or Her Love?

Is It Okay To Wait For Someone I am Not Sure Of His Or Her Love? -Character, Back To Back, Male, Woman

Okay so a lot of people are still having this issue of indecisiveness and uncertainty about someone they are attracted to.

You meet a girl and she tells you she is not sure yet,what should you do? Is it okay to wait for someone I am not sure of his or her love?

What if you have a guy and he hasn't given you any serious response but what he wants is for both of you to just be in a normal or friendly relationship? Is it okay to wait for someone I am not sure of his or her response? What should you do if you find yourself in this case?

Well,the truth is that where there is love,there is positive response! Love is patient but not slow in response. When a man loves you but is not ready for marriage you would know it and you would also feel it. You would see it all around him that the readiness is not there but he is keeping in touch with you.

Moreover,when a man has found himself and the readiness is all there for marriage and he tells you to wait,give the relationship sometime or that he wants both of you to just be in a friendly relationship,my dear,it is very unwise to keep having faith in such a man hoping by tomorrow he would change and marry you.
There is something about men that I love. It is the fact that they don't hide their sayings of heart. In their actions they express what they are to you. But when we ladies are in love,we cover our eyes,blind mind eye that we cannot see all this.

Silence they say speaks louder than words. Things are expressed either in words or in actions.  If you are in a relationship with someone and he or she gives you silence for answer,they are saying they are not willing,interested or ready to have anything serious with you yet.

Yes,if your boy or girlfriend tells you ''Let's just be normal friends for now'' my dear it is a clear message that they don't want to be in a serious relationship with you. They just want to be friends and that is all.

Remember,when something is not ready,it will never show up,appreciate or yield anything positive.

So why wait for anyone who does not want you? Why wait for someone who has not shown interest in you? This is like standing in front of a wall that would never be opened or make way for you. The earlier you take your leave the better you would have started making your way to success in finding a soulmate,someone who is willing to be with you in sickness and in health,in riches and in poverty until death do you apart!!!
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