Friday, 13 September 2019

How To Tell An Unsuitable Suitor You Are Not Interested

 How To Tell An Unsuitable Suitor You Are Not Interested  -Heartsickness, Lover'S Grief
Everyone is created with a natural desire to like things. This explains the reason God creates and created things in their various colors,shapes and sizes,taste and textures.It's for us to make our choices according to our desires. This also goes down to love.


When you have someone who is interested in you ,who says he loves everything about you,that you are just the picture of the woman he wants for a wife and you don't feel the same way about that person, what should you do? How should you do it?  Should you tell your unsuitable suitor the ugly reason why you won't reciprocate his love? How to tell an unsuitable suitor you are not interested!!

You know it could be very annoying and painful when someone who loves you gets this in reply: ''You know you are short and short people don't suit me'' or you find out he has low IQ or an illiterate and you say to his very face: '' I can't deal with illiterate people they irritate me. How much more having them as suitors...'' sister,is that being smart or intelligent? Is it the right thing to do? Click to read more here: Should I Marry The Man Who Stays With Me When I Have Nothing Or The Man Who Makes My Dream Come True?

I know we have right to make a choice of a marriage mate. I know you have the right to say NO to anyone who does not measure up to your desire. I also know it is very injurious to the heart,mind and soul to accept someone off your heart desire for marriage out of pity but how should you say NO to such one? How to tell an unsuitable suitor you are not interested!!






Don't tell him that you love him but you can't marry him because he is short,tall,illiterate,he has low IQ,and all of that undesirable things to you. The truth is that you can't love somebody and still say no to him because of your weightless measurement of him. You can't love someone without any reason. You love someone because of his possessions-qualities and personal makeup so why lie ''I love you but I can't marry you because you are...''

Click to read here: What It Means To Be In Love.

The good book the Bible says that love covers a multitude of sins. We are not saying that someone being what you don't desire or like is a sin. After all,that person is just the perfect picture of someone else's heart desire.

Simply tell him you appreciate you are loved by him but ''you see,my heart is not in this at all.'' You could also say something like: ''Maybe we should give it sometime to see if my heart will knock towards you. If it does,you will surely know''. Don't you think it is much better than the former way of using a sharp sword to slaughter someone who does you nothing wrong but loves you ??  Don't tell him your choice. Let him find out your choice by himself!! How to tell an unsuitable suitor you are not interested.

However,there is something worse than telling unsuitable suitor to his face the unpleasant ( to you) reason why you don't love him. Collecting and accepting gifts from him or asking him for financial help and assistance when you know you are not going to build a future with him. If you know he is not your suitor,completely go away from him. Leave him and leave his resources for him!!

How someone is created is not a fault. Whether someone is short or tall,black or fair in complexion,pretty or what appears ugly in your eyes is good and perfect in its way. If you are not attracted to someone it is not because that someone is casually made or lesser than anyone else,it is because that person is not your choice!!






Worst of it all moreover is condemning someone to his very face telling him how unsuitable he is to you I repeat,don't tell him. Let him find out himself. This is character assassination,reducing a perfectly made man in God's image to nothing . It is not just unfair but also rude and senseless thing to do. How to tell an unsuitable suitor you are not interested. Now you know how!!!

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Thursday, 22 August 2019

How Much Should We Do For Boyfriends?

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How Much Should We Do For Boyfriends?

Okay,so a lot of teenage girls and ladies have been hooked by some ridiculous  duties for the likes of their boyfriends. Unfortunately,some of these ladies inherited this sense of unnecessary  duties from their friends turned advisers and some from their great grandmothers history. How much should we do for boyfriends?

How could someone wake up only to realize that the only right thing to do for her boyfriend is to visit his home,wash his clothes,mob his house and prepare his dish for him? Your boyfriend? This is ridiculous! It is only and in only unhealthy relationships full of desperation do we see undignified behaviours like this.

We also have situations where boyfriends force their girlfriends to delete their former Facebook  and other social media account handles. Then to please these so called boyfriends,our ladies delete their very mature investment of friendship zones and lose other well meaning friends in their hundreds just for only one jealous boyfriend. Girls why?? What suddenly happened to your right senses??

In the days of our grandmothers in Africa,things weren't exactly this way. These women although being betrothed and traditionally engaged to their would-be husbands wouldn't go to the homes of their suitors but to the family house of their suitors to get acquainted with the members of his family. There was no form of absolute control of their life pattern by their serious suitors. How much should we do for boyfriends?

Most women in their yet undefined relationships  with their pseudo boyfriends voluntarily and some at the demands of their friends open their legs for the pleasure of their boyfriends. Some do it daily,others weekly. Why? They said if they wouldn't do it,their boyfriends would leave them for other girls! I don't understand. How? Is your womanhood made for public consumption? Is its value rated by premarital sex activities? Is that a qualification for marriage rites? Hello!!

Click here to read more: Will Sleeping With My Ex Bring Him Back?

There are also ladies who would go as far as risking their life in the process of committing abortion because their selfish and greedy boyfriends ask them to do so would they want to continue to be their girlfriends. What rubbish!! To accept to continue to be a trash of rubbish in a relationship with life killer and blood shocker is what you crave and wish to continue being?? What sort of person are you??

How would you even think that a man who had never been engaged to you,who had never introduced you to his parents as his soon to be wife and who had never deemed it fit to see your parent do so after you have given and he has sapped you of everything you have for his tomorrow's pleasure?How much should we do for boyfriends?

And who told you that a man who loves you would leave you for another girl because you won't open your legs for him to deep his unkempt fingers and manhood in your sacred beautiful hole? A big lie my dear! In fact,it is even your refusal that will make him run and chase you the more. I and we in our entire lives have never seen a responsible,intelligent man leave a gold for a mere chaff!

Click to read more here: What It Means To Be In Love.

I repeat,you won't lose a responsible,charming lover to another girl merely because you refuse to be stupid,senseless and incomprehensible. Any man who does so is rather worthless and unworthy of a virtuous character like you are. You don't deserve such rotten,wasted,chaff in a manly muscularly body, sweet heart.

Gladly let him go!  Let him go for a dear man who will not unnecessarily control your life as if your life solely depends on him. 

A man who will not shameless reduce your worth just because he wants you to prove you love and will make him happy in time. A man who will look at you and see you are just that woman he needs to accomplish and fulfill his soul. A man who will help you and make whole. A man who will mold you become your better person and not a man who will take the better you  and dash it to a trash!You need to have this figure of a man sweetie. And until you have him don't settle for any less!!!
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Sunday, 28 July 2019

Should These Ones Also Date?

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Should These Also Date?


Are we saying there people who should not date? Is dating not for everyone intending to find a soul suitor?  Is dating not a necessary step for everyone intending to marry? Should these also date? Please who are these?

These are the many things we shall unveil herein to you @Monikmotivational.com. As usual,feel free with us and enjoy the article.

According to Wikipedia definition,dating is a stage of romantic relationships in humans whereby two people meet socially with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a prospective partner in an intimate relationship. Put simply,dating involves romantic relationship with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a prospective partner.

Can two people in love assess each other's suitability without going out together or seeing each other? Can two people of opposite sex become lovers without first dating? Can two good friends form romantic feelings for each other without dating? Should these also date?

Click to read more here: What It Means To Be In Love.

Can Two people In Love Assess each Other's Suitability Without Going Out Together Or Seeing Each Other?

Yes and absolutely yes! Because they are already lovers,their minds and heart are already connected to each other. Without pretense of whom they really are,one can hurt the other without the other feeling irritated about it. They have become two great forgivers to each other that no matter what one does or say the other is always willing to forgive. This is suitability. They can live together in peace forever because,they can let go of anything called a breach to their relationship. Should these also date?

Can Two Opposite Sex Become Lovers Without First Dating?

In the history of  love and relationship,love comes first before dating. People of opposite s*x must have realized that they have love for each other before they can go on date to form stronger relationship and cement the bond of feelings they both share.

I know of lovers who have deep feelings for each other. They started as good friends who are fond of  what each was. At first,the young man said he was captivated by the little girl's beauty. As they were growing bigger, he also found out that she was a very intelligent child with a fine quality of  ''no nonsense'' and this attracted him to the girl. On the side of the beautiful young lady,she said that her own attraction to the guy was the fact that her no nonsense and gallant attitude which irritates many guys was loved,respected and cherished by him. The young guy prides in everything that makes the girl,the person she really is. He knows how to calm and control her when she has to let the steam out like no other man does. Should these also date?

Can Two Good Friends Form Romantic Feelings For Each Other Without Dating?

Since love,attraction and feelings are the drives and push for dating are we not saying that two good friends can form romantic feelings for each other without first dating? One thing you should know about dating is that dating itself does not generate either feelings or love. It can only make these two things grow stronger. Lovers who have developed romantic feelings for each other which they keep nurturing day by day through communications via telephones and text messages,are accessing each other's suitability as prospective partners are they not? Should these also date? 

Well,we are not in any ways saying or suggesting that dating is not necessary for everyone intending to marry. What we are saying is that for those who start friendships later turned relationships in their early lives and fortunately got attracted to their partners,continue to grow and develop feelings for each other and later in their relationships find they are suitable and compatible to each do not necessarily need to date. What else would they accomplish in dating that they have not already achieved? Is it finding a right mate? Having a companion through interaction? Developing or having intimacy? Could it be personality development? Just what else would those who have achieved all these in their casual relationships gain when they engage in a more serious process of getting to know each other called dating? Maybe the last point in my mind- Dating,preparing minds for marriage.
Finally,if you have been in a long time relationship with a lover and you are still in doubt whether you are both suitable for each other you really really need to engage in a more serious process of developing and nurturing romantic feelings for lovers and prospective partners called dating!!!
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Sunday, 7 July 2019

Should I Marry The Man Who Stays With Me When I Have Nothing Or The Man Who Makes My Dream Come True?

Should I Marry The Man Who Stays With Me When I Have Nothing Or The Man Who Makes My Dream Come True?

So there is a lady out there who has been facing an emotional issue only she can rightly take decision on. But here she wants us to advise her on what to do. Will she take our advice? Again,this is another decision she can make all by herself. But we are here to give relationship advice,look at some critical relationship issues that could endanger relationships,listen to complaints and try to proffer solutions to them. Should I marry the man who stays with me when I have nothing or the man who makes my dream come true?

Wow! This is a very interesting question! She has two men currently in her life but she does not know who to  choose for a husband. One of the two men had been with her for a long time and he is the former,but the latter recently came into her and changed her life completely.

What would you advise this young woman in a cross road of love do now? Should she go for the lover who had stood by her when she had nothing or leave him for the man who made her dream come true?

From what is seen here,both men are lovers of this young,talented woman. When she had nothing,the former man stood by her ( like he depends on her for a living) praying and hoping that soon things would turn around for good. The latter lover came to the young woman's life,saw she had a need to meet to be happy in life and helped her meet the need. Now she is made and happy once again. But she is confused,not knowing who to give her life to. Should I marry the man who stays with me when I had nothing or the man who makes my dream come true?

My dear young lady,from your description of your first lover,it looks like you are the breadwinner,always on the forefront to make both ends meet for both of you. When you had nothing,he had nothing as well. And it also seems to me that he made no much effort to realize capital and make your dream come or probably he tried but not enough to make it happen. What do you what? Do you want to have a man in your life whom you will always fend for and and become his breadwinner?

The latter man saw you and you gave him the chance to come into your life even when you already had a lover. Why? Is it because you knew he could help you actualize your dream and what to take advantage of his money or is there anything else? I'm sure that man truly loves you otherwise,he wouldn't have spent so much on you to make you a better person you are today. Should I marry the man who stays with me when I had nothing or the man who makes my dream come true?

Again the answer lies in your hands! What does your mind tell you is a better person for you? But hey,one choice here is better than the other. If you go for the former who virtually does nothing much reasonable for a living,a man who could contribute nothing in your career success, in what way will he be of any support for you in the future? If he comes into your life real time in marriage with you will you not have made him reap on what another man has sown? That wouldn't be fair at all. Try to be in his shoes and see if that pleases you as well.

Read more here:List Of Different Needs In Relationship. Which Is Yours?

Maybe you are afraid of what people might say. ''She left her lover because he has nothing for another man because of his money'' and all of that. Did you really go for the latter because of his money or because your happiness in making your dreams come true is paramount important to him?

But this is the real man! A man who would be at his best to make his woman happy and above all be successful in her chosen career. This is the kind of man every reasonable woman should go for rather than stupidly dying in love for no gains,for nothing!

A man of great insight and hard work is a leader and the only legible man for any kind of woman for marriage!

The good and only inspired book the Bible says '' Husband,love your wife as Christ loves the congregation and delivers up for it...And you wife,have deep respect for your husband.'' Tell me woman,how can you respect a husband who cannot deliver?

Read also: What To Do When You Fall In Love With The Wrong Person

You see,that is the simple principle of headship and submissiveness in marriage. A husband must really work hard to care for the needs of his woman ( that is love) and this is where he gains the respect from her which includes submissiveness.

Another truth is that it is not possible that a man loves a woman he does not care for. Love entails care and responsibility. When a man does not do these things,he naturally begins to feel less of a man in himself and abuses everything and everyone around him. How on earth for heaven sake can any woman respect any man without value? Oh...it doesn't really happen! And it is not genuine if it in anyways exists. Should I marry the man who stays with me when I ha nothing or the man who makes my dream come true? Choose for yourself!!!
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Sunday, 23 June 2019

Will Sleeping With My Ex Bring Him Back?






Will Sleeping With My Ex Bring Him Back?

Will Sleeping With My Ex Bring Him Back?

Was not sleeping with him the first place the cause of  your problem?  Did he tell you that as long as you chose to remain chaste,refused to open your legs for him he would have nothing to do with you? Will sleeping with my ex bring him back?

Wow! This is unbelievable question of our time! Well,it depends on what business you have with this kind of man anyway.  If you are a s*x worker,yes,sleeping with him will definitely bring him back. If you are his romantic and s*x mate,surely closing your legs before him will be the most stupid thing you would have ever done.

Will sleeping with my ex bring him back? Not for a man who loves you and wants to have a meaningful relationship with you. A man who loves you enough to make you his wife and everlasting life partner will continue to run after you and long to have you yet more and more each and every time you distance your body from him.

A man who cherishes you the way you are will have respect for you so much that he would not want to embarrass you with the issue of s*x.

Yes,the one and only truth is that refusal to have s*x with your friend or suitor will NEVER make him to leave if he truly loves and mean well for you. Only Casanovas,chasers and tappers  will. Will sleeping with my ex bring him back? How and why?

For a truth,s*x is never a ground on which marriage is ever founded. Only personal qualities, possessions,and likes are. And all my life in my imaginative works and realistic senses, I have never heard that a suitor,a man who said he has found love in a woman left her because she refused to sleep with him. But I have seen and heard for real,how men flew from women they were considering marriage with for their lack of self control and ability to stay chaste.




How will sleeping with your ex,a man who left you because you refuse to sleep with him bring him back? Of course it might bring him back but that is only for s*x purposes! Not for any love or serious relationship affairs but for craving of your body and lust.

You didn't open your legs for him when he wanted it because you were a different person. You refused to sleep with him because you knew it was improper. What suddenly happened to that wonderful knowledge of yours dear Motivational friend? When and how did chastity become improper?

Be careful with your thought this time.Stop making yourself go against your will and desire because of a man who craves for your body.  I can't believe this father! While some women are saying no to serious suitors wanting marriages  because their men have not been able to buy them their desired cars,houses or capital to raise their business and promote their careers,you are here disturbing yourself and everyone with the issue of selling your body for one carnivorous man,looking for your body to tear and dash out. Will sleeping with my ex bring him back? What a question!!

Any man who tells you that keeping your legs closed with him will make you lose him has a clear message for you already. Don't even bother him.You do not have to ask whether he loves you,if he has any marriage intention for you or wants to have you as his future partner. He only wants your body! He only wants you for s*x!!

Yes,what do you yourself want? Honestly,if you want a decent marriage partner,this man is not an ideal man for you! By the way,why should you go back to your vomit all because your body is in want of a partner? But this man doesn't mean and doesn't want to be one for you. Can't you see? He wants your body!


 Will Sleeping With My Ex Bring Him Back?


My advice: Leave him alone and let him go. Tell your body you have not yet seen a man who loves and cherishes you to care for it. Keep calm and keep waiting. Your fortune is on the way and you will surely see him on time only if you will let go of the man who wants your body only for s*x and never let him back!!!
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Wednesday, 12 June 2019

What It Means To Be In Love.

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What It Means To Be In Love.

Do you know of anyone who says he or she is in love? Do you know of anyone who is truly in love? Do you think you are in love? Are you truly in love? You see,these questions are here because of so much confusions people in relationships have.

Truly speaking,thousands of women are in relationships with their heart desires but still feel the vacuum that only love can fill.  Does this mean they are in relationships with wrong persons? People who love some other persons while they pretend to love them?

You see,there is a huge difference between being in love with someone and having love for someone. Most people who have problems in their relationships,feeling empty and being in want of love even when they in relationships are those who simply have love for their partners or whose partners simply have love for them rather than being in love with them.

Do you know of anyone who is in a relationship? Is he or she in love or does he or she feel or have love for his or her partner? What it means to be loved!

WHAT IT MEANS TO BE IN LOVE

Many people know the popular story of the Romeo and Juliet. You may have also heard of ''Love in Turkyo, These are examples of endless love. Inseparable love. Love in action. People in this kind of relationship are lovers and they are in love. They share,experience,and feel what it means to be in love. They don't wonder whether they are really in love with their partners. Yes,they know it is not just love they have for each other but that they in love.


  • When you are in love,your partner becomes your soulmate and not your bedmate. This is to say that even when your partner lives or stays a far distance,you both are not separated. You are ever close

to each other as if he is standing always,next to you. What it means to be in love.

What It Means To Be In Love.


  • Again when you are in love,you don't have or feel any doubt that he is the right person for you. Yes,he feels the same. Your heart,your mind and your soul are completely in agreement with him or her. At this time,you do not have a second man as option as much as he doesn't. Everything just take two to tango for both of you.



  • When you are in love with someone who truly does the same with you,you do not have to beg for his or her attention even when he does not immediately give you the satisfaction you want from him. This does not mean he denies or have to deny you your needs. A man who is in love with you won't do that but a man who simply has love for you can. What it means to be in love.



  • Yes,when you are in love,you are filled and satisfied with the person you love. You are okay with everything he is or has. His wrong or imperfection does not hurt you. You accept his good,bad and ugly as fine and beautiful. And no chances,no ugly traits can take him away from your heart.


The truth yet is that,every true relationship has pains and endurance. Stop being deceived by the movies you watch and fictions you read that depict that true relationships and love are bed roses. Look at real live experiences and true love stories and you will see that there is always Exodus after Genesis in every true relationship.

True love will sometimes make you cry and shed tears but will sure soothe your heart thereafter. That is what it means to be in love!!!

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Wednesday, 22 May 2019

If Your Friend Keeps In Touch With His Or Her Ex,Does It Matter Anything?

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If Your Friend Keeps In Touch With His Or Her Ex,Does It Matter Anything?

Virtually every lover has an ex. Of course I do not know of any sort of human who doesn't or never had some lovers but gigs.

If you had a friend whom you shared some romantic affairs with but later lost his or her entire contacts,he or she is your ex!

If you also had a clear break with your lover because of some critical issues or misunderstanding and you both parted ways and you found another,you also have an ex!

If your friend keeps in touch with his or her ex,does it matter anything? Let's use your present case to find an answer.

You are in a relationship with a friend. You love him well enough to make him your very close friend. Soon,you begin to develop some romantic feelings for him and as days pass by,it becomes stronger. Now it has gotten to a point he has become a total part of you and you do not want to lose him to anyone else.

Now you have a crash in the relationship and it begins to tear apart. And finally,that which holds both of you together looses and both of you finally fall apart. You both are now exes to each other. Free to be on your way and do whatever that pleases you with your body.

Now your ex must have gotten a new girlfriend that makes him happy. But later again,some fumes begin to draw both of you together. Now someone's boyfriend,(your ex) is getting in touch with you. Is anything wrong with that? If your friend keeps in touch with his or her ex,does it matter anything?

When that ex,(someone's boyfriend) is getting in touch with you,what does it feel? What do you share together? Nothing? You would definitely not say that!

You are trying to reconnect with each other. Of course you both still have the undying feelings for each other,for those feelings don't die easily. And you are saying that there is nothing wrong with that,that it doesn't matter if your friend keeps in touch with his or her ex?

Wait a moment,do you think that just because you have allowed some deep feelings develop with someone's ex you have just won or gotten him? Unless he doesn't meet his ex still single and sweet!

Over 80% of relationships which have almost hit the point of marriage crash just because some people find their exes back. Relationship,when it has a genuine feelings is so strong that even storms cannot put it apart. Feelings,is something of the heart and spirit,not of the mind!

If your friend keeps in touch with his or her ex,does it matter anything? Yes,it does! A man who truly loves his girlfriend but loses her,always prays to have her in his arms again and again. If this kind of ex is the one you have as your boyfriend,sorry dear,you don't have a lover!

Read more here: Grievous Breakup Mistakes That Destroy Chances Of Getting Back Together

And you know the worst? There is no amount of love you will give or show him at this time that will blind fold his eyes from his ex. Just leave him and start making your way out of the relationship. Let it go and be on your way to find your own lover,your heartthrob forever!!! 


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Friday, 3 May 2019

If I Accidentally Kiss Another Girl,Is It Still Considered Cheating?

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If I Accidentally Kiss Another Girl,Is It Still Considered Cheating?

Thank you Mr. Brennan for asking us this question. No doubt you've been afraid of cheating and you truly want to be faithful to your partner. But we could feel your arms are about to drop from your girlfriend because you want to kiss a side -chick . I don't get it Brenna,you asked: 'If I accidentally kiss another girl,is it still considered cheating?'

Any thing done in this way is no longer an accident! You've deeply thought of it,and you knew it could happen. The only problem you are having right now is that you do not know for sure if it is considered cheating when one accidentally kisses another girl.

In a sense,if someone tells you that it is not considered cheating when a man accidentally kisses another girl order than his girlfriend you will go on doing it in the name of ''accidental deed''.

Did you kiss another girl order than your girlfriend? Have you already done it without knowing when and how it happened,and now you want to know if you've cheated on your dear partner?

Well,if you have already accidentally kissed another girl and you want to know if you have cheated on your partner,yes you have cheated! And if you are talking out of imagination  it means you are already willing to do it and will later call it an accidental kiss. Yet,it too is considered cheating!

No one kisses just anything he or she sees except what is being attracted to him or her. It must have appealed to you and you must have developed some feelings to kiss before it is done. If you do it,you will have cheated on your partner!

Faithfulness is simply when you have an urge to kiss or do any wrong and yet,say no and refuse to yield! If you fall in to your urge and do as it pushes,my dear,you have cheated!!

If you don't want to cheat on your girlfriend,let no to the feelings to do so be your only resolve. Yes,it is so hard to say no to the urge when it comes but it cannot push you do kiss anyone if your heart is strong to withdraw.

Read more here:10 Ways To Extinguish Romantic Feelings For Someone

If your mind is trying to get you there,let your eyes off her. Get your eyes down your shoes and then walk away...

Whether it is by accident or not,kiss is kiss!!There is no difference between the action because it is drawn by the same stimuli.

You kissed her because you had the urge and you drew out when you've gotten the satisfaction you craved for.

Dear Mr. Brenna,when you kiss another girl who is not your girl,whether by what you called an accident,you have simply cheated!!!
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Thursday, 28 March 2019

Why Do Some People Love Abusive Boyfriends?


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While nobody in actual sense enjoys abusiveness of any form,there are humans who actually go for  it or accept it especially when they are in love or in relationships. They belong to the female gender of humans. Could you imagine it?You can imagine a lady being so crazy about her abusive boyfriend who had abandoned her many times after some physical abusiveness. ''I just got dumped by my abusive boyfriend and I love him and I want him back. What should I do?''



Could you imagine that? While no one wants to have anything to do with abusive friends,someone is being onto it. She is being dumped  by her abusive boyfriend and she is begging him to come back. Is this love at fault? 



Well,some people may say a big yes,that she loves her boyfriend to a fault to the extent that even after being abused physically and emotionally,she still loves him more and cries to have him back. But to us,it is okay.



Everyone loves for a simple reason and that reason becomes very strong. When you get attracted to someone, everyone else would be wondering what the attraction is. They can't see it because it is not in their place to fall in love with such one. Only you can see it because you are the one that got the attraction!



Everyone has an imperfect fault and still has someone who loves him or her despite it. Some faults among humans could be selfishness,anger,envy,malis,hot-temper,jealousy,and the like. 



We have seen some irresponsible women got married to very important people and vice versa.Sometimes you might look at yourself as worthless of any good things of life and you see good things coming to you. There are simply things one can't explain in life but just accept them. Yes,there are still other things we fight against coming our ways and win at last. Everything bothers on what anyone wants and that is what he goes for.



Why do some people love abusive boyfriends?  There is something else they see in such boyfriends that blindfolds them and that is the attraction! It would make you see fault and overlook it. But the danger lies in the other person. Does he love you?



You see,this is where the issue of love comes in. If the man you love and crave for does not do the same for you,there is no good or healthy relationship between you people. What is even your reason for tolerating his imperfect fault if not because at least he loves you? Your love and craving for him becomes in vain he does not love you as well.



Don't try to force a man love or accept you because his abusiveness will become more dangerous thereafter. It's either you die in his hand or you beg for a way to get out of the miserable relationship. 


Dear Motivational friend,love a man who loves you. Reject the thought of  ''I cannot live without him''. Says who? Where was he when you were born? How has he contributed to your living or survival before you met him? He has barely spent some meaningful hours in a few months with you in a relationship and you feel you cannot live or survive without him. This is very very senseless,unbelievable and incomprehensible thing to think about.

There is no genuine love in life except where two hearts beat together as one because,it takes two to tangle,and not one!

No just one person in love or in a relationship can make a relationship meaning or workable. It doesn't work in a relationship and anyone who thinks she can try it would only keep beating in a bush without realizing any achievement at the end of the day.

Read more here: My Boyfriend Is Going To Break up With Me Again? What Should I do?

Love in return,covers a multitude of sin,makes all faults bearable!!!


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Thursday, 21 March 2019

If Woman Becomes Boss In Relationship You Will See These Dangers

If Woman Becomes Boss In Relationship You Will See These Dangers Beautiful, Business, Woman, Phone

I don't seem to understand it when a woman begins to play the roles of a man either in marriage or in courtship. Wherever roles are swapped,it becomes incomprehensible and senseless idea that a man should sit while the woman becomes the main actor.

Yes,sometimes,women are the causes. When they make themselves the boss of the house or the leader of their relationships!

Let's say a man or a husband loses his job,should the wife take up his roles? Not necessarily. It may seem to you the situation has presented itself for it but it is not true. What the man loses is his job. Not his position as the head of the family.

A husband loses his job and his wife begins to take care of all financial budget in the bid to help her husband. She goes to the market without asking him for money.The children ask for sweet and she would warn them not to disturb their dad. If a woman becomes boss in relationship,you will see these dangers:

The man would automatically have the licence to sit and watch at home. When he gets tired of sitting at home,he would go out to join other men who play draft. Before long,he would have become an idle mind and a lazy hand! Because the woman is now the boss of the household!

A man said he loves you. And the following week she's gone to the market and comes to the man's house with a load of food stuff. She has taken up the task of a wife already in few weeks of their relationship. She makes sure the man has enough food on his table with her hard earned money. Many times,she buys him boxers and singlet,perfect T-shirt,shell glasses,bracelet and all that! If a woman becomes boss in relationship you would see these dangers:

The woman becomes the giver and chief provider while the man,the supposed actor in the relationship becomes the receiver. He becomes manless because his girlfriend has taken his position as the chief provider!

We have also seen another set of women that have kept our mouth afloat. They are the first to call all morning to know how their guys spent their night. At midday hours they call to check on their guys and in the evening they would still do the same. I wonder the wombs that gave birth of this kind of women. Very senseless and shameless! If woman becomes boss in the relationship,you would see these dangers:

The man begins to feel sucked and emotionless. He is deprived of the feelings and strength that men get when they are in a relationship with women. Yes,the woman lacks the joy women feel when they are in the hands of their suitors.

I used to know of a boss lady whose boyfriend is both jobless and homeless. She took him in and they lie in the same bed.She has a business outfit where she sells goods and her boyfriend is the sale's boy who never touches money while she is the cashier that receives all monies. All the boy gets in return for his endless services is the daily bread on the table. If woman becomes the boss in relationship,you will see these dangers:

The man would continue to be handicapped and hand broken. Becoming a responsible man would be so hard for him to reach. And the woman would continue to have a lifeless man in the coat working for her. She would never feel the joy and satisfaction of having a man in her life.

Dear boss ladies,it doesn't make any sense being the boss your husband or boyfriend is made to be. When you take up the role of a man,you make him be a woman you are made to be. This makes no sense to me or any of my kind being the boss of your own household.

Read more here: How Can I Make myself Attracted To Men?

Learn to empower your man when he is broke. Raise him when he is down. Help him become A MAN and the boss of your household and you will enjoy what it means to be a woman!!!
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Thursday, 14 March 2019

How Can I Make myself Attracted To Men?

How Can I Make myself Attracted To Men? Girl, Love, Heart, Relationship
How Can I Make myself Attracted To Men?

Wow! This question sounds like ones' who has never been approached by any man in her entire life!  Some people may say that there could be no such people on earth who have never been approached by their opposite s*x but I tell you there are!

They are not imbecile,neither are they handicapped or  mentally challenged,but,they are just normal men and women like you who are reading this piece. How can I make myself attracted to men?

What kind of attraction could a woman be asking for in order to get herself a man? This is because,getting the most expensive powder and getting the best makeup artist in the world to give one a beautiful look does not make any woman attractive so forget about it. Cosmetics does not help in this regard!

The question of what a woman could do to make herself attracted to men is the same question a trader or a business owner would ask to attract buyers to patronize his or her goods. What could a business man or a trader do in his business in order to attract buyers to buy his goods? Change the color of his shop to perhaps one attractive color? Change his business type or repaint the brand of his goods? Well, all these attempts won't do so much to attract buyers to buy ones' goods. No doubt it would make the business outlet and products look beautiful and neat but unless the seller has what customers want he will not seller. How can I make myself attractive to men?

The same is applicable here in a woman who is seeking for an attractive mate for marriage. Painting or changing her color to attract men won't make men ask her hand in marriage unless she has what the suitors want for marriage!

Everyone naturally is good enough for marriage but attitude and wayward lifestyles could make one unattractive for marriage.

Some women do not know they worth more than many sparrows that they give out their most precious bodies to men all day- night for a price of  chicken!

Some become so gullible that they dance to the tones of others,follow the devilish ways that by the time they come to their senses they would have been worn off.

How can I make myself attractive to men? Be your humble self. Be a productive or an enterprising person. Live a meaningful lifestyle. Live a life of purpose.And show that your life does not depend on anyone to survive!!!

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Thursday, 28 February 2019

My Boyfriend Is Going To Break up With Me Again? What Should I do?

My Boyfriend Is Going To Break up With Me Again? What Should I do?  Pair, Man, Woman, Discussion, Difference

Nice question! And I believe this is a good question because to before warned is to before harmed. People who run to relationship counsellors early enough do by 80% save themselves of many pains. ''My boyfriend is going to break up with me again? What should I do?''

So how did you know that your boyfriend is going to break up with you again? Wait a moment,this is not the first time you would be experiencing a heartbreak and probably not the second time by the same boyfriend. Your boyfriend had broken up with you at some points before and you could see him trying to go into that path again. Well done!

This simply means,he  is trying to do the same thing to you over and over again just in the same manner he started the other. Frankly,something really fishy is wrong somewhere you people have not fixed and that is why you are yet to experience the same shipwreck with the same boyfriend.

Obviously you accepted this boyfriend of yours back to relationship without addressing former issues and setting things right with him. But why? You were so desperate,and you thought any waste of time to accept him would make him change his mind from you right? You also thought that everything would be fine as soon as you both are back in relationship eh? But hey,things don't work that way my dear lady!

You don't run away from today's problems and it disappears into the thin air tomorrow. When matters surface and it does not get solved,the reality of it is that it will rest and wait for you tomorrow,either in multiples or in plurals.

Don't ever beg your man or boyfriend to stay in a relationship he doesn't want to be into! Doing so is making him wask a stronger wings that would make him fly away.

In relationship,it takes two to tangle,and two hearts to beat as one! Anything short of this law of nature breaches it and makes lovers fall and tear into pieces.

My boyfriend is going to break up with me again? What should I do? Well,nothing much should you do in this case to keep a man who wants to leave for good. Beg him and he would see himself very important. Sacrifice for him and he would see you looking very stupid. Pretend you cannot see him losing out of the relationship and he would see you as very senseless!! These are what one could get by paying attention to a boyfriend who doesn't want to stay.

You see,you need to understand you are in a relationship and not in marriage. If you at the stage of 'relationship' would beg a man to stay what would you do if he is in marriage with you? Remember,affairs and matters in relationship level are lighter and simpler to handle than when in marriage.

If you notice that your boyfriend is about to break up with you,ooh you are very fortunate to notice it. Begin to feel less concern too. In fact,try to feel more indifference about it than he would.Then the result is that he would be the one to ask ''what is happening and why you are behaving the way you are!!


In everything,do well your own part and let what would be,be!!!




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Friday, 22 February 2019

IRRESISTIBLE Tips In Choosing A Suitable Life Partner!!

IRRESISTIBLE Tips In Choosing A Suitable Life Partner!!

So a mother who just celebrated her 50th year marriage anniversary shares with us some tips on how to choose a suitable life partner.

This woman who has lived with a lovely man,a husband for over 50 years now does not feel that marriage is a whole accomplishment but says it could be a fulfillment if these tips are applied.

To her however,marriage is good but there is a whole BUT in it. This she also shares with us in a so long a letter about marriage and singleness she gives to both married and single as her give-away-gift.

She titles it LOVE and MARRIAGE.Enjoy it!!

''As I reflect regurgitatively on the role marital relationship plays, it occurred to me that whether we are married or single, there is a place for all of Us in God's service. So find your place and remain there. Don't let anyone pummel you or rush you into a lifelong relationship of unhappiness and emotional torture.

Those that remain single either by Choice or by their lot in life should be encouraged and appreciated. We should be careful with our choice our words. We ought to avoid questions like: "brother when will you marry?" Or "Sister no husband yet?" Please let sleeping dogs lie.

Remember, marriage is not totally connected to happiness, but some times  unhappiness. You can be married and still be lonely. It is better to be single and happy than Married and Miserable. Don't forget that when you embrace fantasy and argue with reality your Life becomes miserable!

 However, if you choose to marry you will do well only if you marry the right person. Don't rush out of your father's house just because your parents are poor or maybe they do things you don't like. If you can't tolerate the short falls and imperfections of your parents and siblings, then you are not yet prepared to tolerate the shortfalls & mediocrity of your spouse for the rest of your LIFE.

When selecting a Life partner, do not look at the body, rather, look at the Mental (IQ), Moral and spiritual engine. The body can be taken to a mechanic or panel-beater for surgery, and with some money you can make her Up to specification. However,  a morally disjoint and crooked single person cannot be made straight in a marriage. So avoid "I will change him" mentality. If he/she is not okay for you right now, he won't be okay even in 10 years time. Please, don't  marry a spiritual looser out of pity or for financial gratification. Those things don't last and you will soon face the harsh and unbearable realities.

My dear, take note that TRUE LOVE is not an Emotional Roller Coaster ride. TRUE LOVE do not give account of an injury in an invoice. It is devoid of Fantasy, Fallacy and Fiction (FFF).
Above all, TRUE LOVE is not Sacrosanct or trouble free; it has its own Peculiar Challenges. If you have found true love, Congratulations! Hold on to your soulful desire and don't let it slip off your fragile hands. But if you are yet to find a suitable Person, please don't give up. Keep on searching prayerfully while improving on your inner qualities and outer skills. God will surely grant you your Heart desire no matter how long you have waited.

Apart from Moral and Spiritual qualities, compatibility or lack of it can make or mar a marriage. Principled courtship provides ample opportunity to get to know each other very well. A moderately long courtship could help to detect irreconcilable differences.

Most importantly, The Bible emphasizes the importance of love in a marriage. Tender affection (Greek, phi·liʹa) is needed in a marriage. Romantic love (eʹros) brings delight, and love for family (stor·geʹ) is vital when children enter the picture. However, it is love based on principle (a·gaʹpe) that ensures the success of a marriage. Concerning this love, the apostle Paul wrote: “Each one of you must love his wife as he does himself; on the other hand, the wife should have deep respect for her husband (Ephesians 5:33). Above all, only when you & your partner  work hard to "REMAIN IN GOD'S LOVE" can you live happily ever after!''

Read more here: Grievous Breakup Mistakes That Destroy Chances Of Getting Back Together
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Friday, 15 February 2019

Grievous Breakup Mistakes That Destroy Chances Of Getting Back Together


Grievous Breakup Mistakes That Destroy Chances Of Getting Back Together

What many people do not know about breakup is that it is not the end of any relationships but a clear break in romantic relationships. This is our own definition from Monikmotivational.com. This is because,during breakup in relationships,the chances of getting back together or losing out completely is 50:50.

It is out of place to say that it doesn't make sense to expect an ex come back or want to make up with an ex otherwise,it would have been very senseless and such a shame for one who says so to have been in that relationship in the first place.

If the partner didn't make any sense to you why would you have accepted to share part of your life,time and precious resources with him or her even if it is for a day,a week,a month or for a year?

Breakup happens when there is disappointment,when expectations are not seen coming forth or when one party does not see light coming at the end of the tunnel. So you take a break and give things chances to work things out for themselves. Only for someone you love would you expect something good of achievement to happen. Disappointment you feel because you expect something more reasonable from him or her. Not able to see light at the end of the tunnel because you expect him or her to shine above their limits. Only from someone you truly love would you expect something of so great and important.

 Breakup mistakes that destroy chances of getting back together!!

Truly speaking,100% of genuine lovers in relationships would expect their ex to back during their breakup. We are not talking about those in lustful relationships or to those guided by the spirit of infatuation in relationships. This is for genuine lovers and here are mistakes that destroy chances of coming back together they shouldn't make!!


  • Do not divulge your ex's secret with either your friends or his because of anger or disappointment. Somehow,your ex will get to hear about it and feel more strongly to stay away from you.



  • Everyone makes mistakes. Do not share your ex's mistakes with people either on social media or anywhere else just to show you are not at fault in the breakup. Infidelity which destroys relationships is not only about fornication or adultery, but also in the inability of not respecting part of someone's life.



  • There was a friend who broke up with her husband after five years in marriage with two kids. instead of lying low or going into hibernation,she took to her social media page,and everyday she would  show how stupid some men could be. If only she didn't allow the situation take her better self,she would have kept the whole thing to herself,knowing her husband is also watching her reactions. Her ex saw himself as part of what she daily discussed on her page,and feels irritated to make up with her. Do not walk on her path!!



  • If you speak injuriously of your ex,you are making him or her not to see any good in you anymore. So how would he or she come back? What is the drive that speeds off interest in relationships?



  • But you really want your ex back.Everyday and night you wish you both are still together so you could talk the way you used to and never say goodbye to each other. You can still get him back because breakup is not the end of a relationship.He still loves you but wants to see things turn around better. You can only help the situation by doing better.
Because you and your ex had allowed strong feelings to grow in your emotional lives,it won't be easy to just let go forever. Keep a positive look at things and rather than dwelling on your ex's mistakes and sharing it out publicly,keep busy working on yourself and you will not have a dime time for stupidity.

If he finds what he wants in you,no mountainous fall or crack in the sky will stop him from coming back for him!!!
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Wednesday, 30 January 2019

Should I Beg My Ex Lover Back?

Should I Beg My Ex Lover Back? -Divorce, Separation, Relationship

Should I Beg My Ex Lover Back?

Should I beg My ex lover back? Who is asking us this and why? You will find out before the end of the discussion but trust me,the gender is female.

When men have breakup in their relationships they don't get perplexed. They move to realize something better for themselves. And when they realize their ex is the something better for them,they go back and mean serious relationships.

But you see our girls,reverse is the case. When their guys start behaving strange they start panting. And when the relationship is finally down they think everyday of their life to see whether their ex have gotten other women in replacement of them. Should I beg my ex lover back?

Women easily and usually lose hope in their breakups whereas men keep calm and focus on what they want. It takes a woman plus,a woman who has manly character and not just a tom boy to be less concerned with any man who breaks up with her.

Should I beg My ex lover back? Well this is what happens when you beg your ex lover back:


  • He wouldn't have respect for you. It goes in everything one is begging for showing that one doesn't deserve it and that he or she is simply helpless.



  • When you are begging your ex,you are telling him that he should please manage you. That you know you are nothing so precious for him. How could any reasonable man take you my dear lady when real men go for potential and substantial women?



  • Research and evidence have proven that when women beg their ex to return they give them more reasons to run further. This is like a seller begging a buyer to buy his product when he is in doubt about it. No potential buyer will buy the product,respect it or use it with pride after all.


Rather than beg your ex lover back do this:


  • Try to examine all that have transpired between both of you. What happened? How did it start? How did it end? Doing this will help you see who is at fault and the next actions to take.



  • If you find out you are the reason for the breakup,send a text message to him or call him not to beg him to come back but to state where you faulted and that it wasn't intentional. Tell him you are sorry for hurting him and losing something that meant well for both of you.



  • It is the responsibility of the ex to come back and in fact it is expected of him to do so after you have taken the  immediate above step if he ever meant well for you in the first place. If he doesn't,don't worry. Just understand that you had been in a relationship all the while with a wrong person and that the breakup happened to let you out of bondage. 



  • Don't ever beg an ex lover to come back to you simply because of love. Love is not enough in serious relationships because serious relationship is not only about romantic affairs!



  • Breakup is good. Most times it makes ex realize the full makeup of the other and help them see if such makeups are what they need. 

  • If you beg your ex to come back when he is no longer interested and he does out of pity you will continue to beg him to stay all your life otherwise he leaves again!



Read more here: How Do I Know He Really Loves Me?

Use the time you want to beg your ex to come back and work on yourself. If you really work on yourself,you will surely become a full potential woman any man would like to have including your ex lover. Then,you will see yourself being trooped for rather the one begging a man to stay!!! 
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