Sunday, 23 December 2018

Should I Share Intimacy Before Getting Married?

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And so a woman (anonymous) shares with us how she regretted not being intimate with her then boyfriend now husband when they were dating and courting. For her,her reason for not ever allowing her then boyfriend touch her was because she was too morally high. Again,she was mama's girl who wouldn't want to do anything that would irk her mom. Yes,her mom preaches chastity and morality. An advocate of  ''no s*x before marriage.''

Well this is something that has kept so many marriages that have this kind of story sweet and glowing especially if the ladies were virgins before meeting their husbands. Men who are part of this story call their wives ''priceless jewels and all that'' and cherish them forever. Below was part of her story to us:

 ''I was one ideal girl who would not let a guy touch me before marriage. So when I fell in love with my then best friend and now husband, he knew that he cannot be intimate with me before marriage. Because I was not only high on morales, but also a mama's girl who would not do anything that would ever irk her.
He kept patience for 4 years and then we got married.''
Well this is something that has kept so many marriages that have this kind of story sweet and glowing especially if the ladies were virgins before meeting their husbands. Men who are part of this story call their wives ''priceless jewels'' and cherish them forever. But here,the anonymous and sharer of the story laments: 
''You know the irony? It's been more than 10 years and he does not see me in a sexual way at all! He loves me to the core, cares for me like no other. But that's it! He never got intimate. Even after all the trying, pleading, crying, getting frustrated, getting even cheated with other woman. I lost a husband. I feel as if I am married but have never been a wife.''
So what could be the cause? Is this the result of being chaste with one's partner until marriage? I definitely don't think so. This is just one of the ladies in the chaste group who didn't enjoy s*xual life with her marriage mate. Not being intimate with a friend is a totally different thing from not having s*xual urge with one's marriage mate. 
Should I share intimacy before getting married? Well,are you scared that if you don't you will suffer rejection,lost of s*xual feelings with your hubby tomorrow? What has light got to do with darkness? Any relationship? Then what are your fears for??
For one thing,the anonymous who shared this story with us confessed that her husband showered her with so much love and care but intimacy! 
''He loves me to the core, cares for me like no other. But that's it! He never got intimate.  I wish I had been intimate with him before marriage.''
So what do you think? Was not sharing intimacy with her then boyfriend the cause of her problem? I absolutely do not think so because nature has it that when one hungers for something that is kept for him,he longs more to having it. 
The fact that the husband of the anonymous loses interest in what is kept for him simply  means he has taken it somewhere else! He is the cause of the problem and not lack of intimacy from the beginning. His wife confirms this:
''He is not a Gay for sure! Eventually, he gave out every detail of his intimate affair on my insistence. And I truly have forgiven him.''
''About porn, yes, he was a regular porn watcher. But he is not interested in it now. I guess he is already done with it.''
This is why the man has suddenly lost interest in having s*xual affairs with his own wife? You can't simply eat your cake and have it.

Read more here: Does Your Partner hide His Or Her Emotional Feelings? Do This
Again,there is absolutely nothing wrong in chastity and in keeping one's legs closed until marriage. In fact that is when s*x matters most and best,more and better!!!